Iceman0604 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Here is the situation tell me what would you do... Me and my g/f have been dating for 3 years, she lives in Wa and I live in NC and we cant be together fro another year, she has a friend who is about 25 yrs older who lives in another state. Recently I found out that he is flirting with her and talking about me. When I foundout I got upset that she would even want to assocaite with someone like that let alone be his friend and asked her to stop doing that. A week or so later I findout they are still doing it so I say to just not talk about me at all. Not to much later I find they are still talking about me and he is flirting with her. So I said she had a choice me or him. She made her choice and we stayed together we argued for awhile about him but we made it through it. I recently foundout she lied and was still talking to him we yelled screamed and now finally 6 months later we are better. Was I wrong for making her choose or should I have tried to compromise again or just totally ignored it?
lilyface Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 You've been with this girl for THREE YEARS? C'mon, have a little faith in her! On the one hand, you definitely have a point. She shouldn't have lied to you. But on the other hand, you shouldn't have forced her to choose between you and a friend of hers. What kind of things is he saying about you? And what do you mean by flirting exactly? Did you tell her flat out that you were feeling jealous and threatened? Or did you insinuate it? Is it possible that she might not have understood how upset you were? And, finally... look, there are always going to be other people in your girlfriend's life, probably always gonna be guys that flirt with her. The bottom line is-- do you trust her? Unless she's flirting back or saying things about you as well, you have no reason to be concerned. Is she defending you to him or is she letting him get away with it?
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