PdoubleE Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Its been aprox. 2 to 3 weeks scince she left me...And the first day of contact after she up and left I packed alot of her stuff... Not all of it and she came and got it. I was Very upset so i was tryng tto do it as fast as i could and a bunch of stuff is still here. About a week into it i called her and asked her if she wanted it... all she said was yes. Well i was in a hurry to get off the phone so she never said when. Well i talked to her a couple days ago and she never even brought it up...All she said was that this kid she has known for about 3 weeks died and she was starting to care for him..But not in that way. And i stated that i felt like she did because i lost her... And she said im right up the road.. you never lost me. I just cant interperate this. It boggles my mind to the extreems. Puts me down thats for sure. Any ideas or opinions would be Greatly appreciated. Thank you again.
basscatcher Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Its been aprox. 2 to 3 weeks scince she left me...And the first day of contact after she up and left I packed alot of her stuff... Not all of it and she came and got it. I was Very upset so i was tryng tto do it as fast as i could and a bunch of stuff is still here. About a week into it i called her and asked her if she wanted it... all she said was yes. Well i was in a hurry to get off the phone so she never said when. Well i talked to her a couple days ago and she never even brought it up...All she said was that this kid she has known for about 3 weeks died and she was starting to care for him..But not in that way. And i stated that i felt like she did because i lost her... And she said im right up the road.. you never lost me. I just cant interperate this. It boggles my mind to the extreems. Puts me down thats for sure. Any ideas or opinions would be Greatly appreciated. Thank you again. She hasn't fully let go of you. Keeping tolkens in your home is a way she have an excuse to come to your place to either feel you out or to come back one last time.. Tolkens are left as territorial markers. EX: I keep a little backpack purse at my bfs apt that has my toiletries and such in it. I wrote on his bathroom mirror that I love him. I did this to mark my territory.. Just in case he deciedes to have another woman in his apt without me knowing. Most women aren't comfortable knowing that a man they are interested in is involved with another woman. Especially if they see I love you on the mirror with his name signified in it. He can't say his children wrote it cause it doesn't say dad it says his name and in feminine adult handwriting. It is territorial--like a dog peeing on trees and cats scratching furniture.. She is examining her options, tasting life and getting a feel for what is out there vs settling for you.. If she said she wants her stuff then she does. If she didn't give a darn about it she would have said something like "its replaceable', 'i don't care about it'.. Hope this gives you some insight.. Don't put a lot of hope in rekindling just because she is still connected. Rarely does a woman come back fully. But it has happened... You need to deciede if you want her to still have her mark on your territory or if you want to cut her off and if she deciedes she has to do it without using any excuses..(like getting her stuff to get her foot in the door.)
Author PdoubleE Posted March 20, 2006 Author Posted March 20, 2006 Well.. should I let her do this..? I really really do love her... But I feel if this is gona happen my whole life eventualy i am gona end it...and not in a good way. Should I end it by just dropping her stuff off.. Or should i call her to tell her to get it.. ? Honestly .. I know she did love me as much as i do...I cant concieve how she can just let all those feelings go...She is the True happiness in my life. How can she shrug off all i have done for her?
Guest Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 i also thought that my ex was keeping some stuff over here as an excuse to come back and get it... after all the night he broke up with me he got most of his stuff..why not all... and this stuff he left is stuff he needs for his job... so all the more reason to take it. but it's been two weeks since the original break up and one week since our "makeup/instant breakup again" and here it still sits. we haven't talked since he hung up on me last week and told me never to call him again.. so i wonder if that means he could care less about his stuff here??? I do know that if/when he does want it that I'm not going to let him use that as a token to get back in my life. i'll tell him to let me know when he's coming by and i'll sit it on the porch. that way he'll get his stuff and i'll show him that i've moved on. the more you let her back in your life the more you'll keep reopening the wounds... and believe me, my wounds started out HUGE... but eventually you get sick of wondering, sick of hoping, sick of believing they'll come back and you realize things really weren't that grand after all. i say give her a few more days and if she doesn't care to get her stuff then pitch it... you have no reason to hold on to it and she is well aware it's there waiting.... and she probably hopes you are, too.
Author PdoubleE Posted March 21, 2006 Author Posted March 21, 2006 she wont answer my calls.... what should i do?
Citizen Erased Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 You are going to have to go with NC. Box up her things, send them to her place and start to move on. She is playing games with you but DONT TAKE THE BAIT!!!!!
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