OYVAY Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 I met a guy and went out with him. We held hands, laughed, and went out for dinner. All went well and we talked about seeing eachother again. He called me the next couple of days to "check in". Now here is the kicker.... He cancelled for that weekend because he had to work. He is a cop and is retiring soon. He tells me to be patient and we will have moe time together after April. I took it in and believed him. I now called him on Friday so I could check in and he explained his dad was sick and in the hospital. He was very short and curt with me. Did he play the "Dad sick" card? Should I let this go knowing that he is interested in seeing me again?
Aussie65 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I am going through the same kind of thing right now and really feel at loose ends with everything.It is hard when they tell you one thing yet their actions say another. It is a waiting game I'm afraid,like myself all you can do is wait and maybe message him and ask him right out after his Father is in the clear.I don't think it is fair when you open your heart up to someone and they mess you around like this. I wish you the very best and hope you get the answer you need soon.
Art_Critic Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 If he was short and curt with me that should tell you everything you need to know.. He isn't interested.. His Dad isn't sick or sick enough to stop him from dating.. Get a clue... Look for someone else..
amaysngrace Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 i think you should give him the benefit of the doubt that his father is, indeed, sick and in the hospital. you have only dated him once, is that right? maybe he didn't want to lay it all on you for how he's feeling about that. most people would not lie about such a thing, at least most people i know. and he probably needs to focus his attention on his mother and other family members right now. also too, maybe he doesn't want to be around you too much right now cause he's afraid of giving off a sad vibe, and he just isn't himself. i think the nice thing to do would be to show your concern to him the next time you two speak. JMO
huz68qog Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 i think you should give him the benefit of the doubt that his father is, indeed, sick and in the hospital. you have only dated him once, is that right? maybe he didn't want to lay it all on you for how he's feeling about that. most people would not lie about such a thing, at least most people i know. and he probably needs to focus his attention on his mother and other family members right now. also too, maybe he doesn't want to be around you too much right now cause he's afraid of giving off a sad vibe, and he just isn't himself. i think the nice thing to do would be to show your concern to him the next time you two speak. JMO in high school i can remember all the lies of sick grandparents, die dogs, fake funeral. i men is capable and most will lie about anything. it's good to gave people the benefit of the doubt but at the same time don't be nu-eve.
amaysngrace Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 in high school i can remember all the lies of sick grandparents, die dogs, fake funeral. i men is capable and most will lie about anything. it's good to gave people the benefit of the doubt but at the same time don't be nu-eve. well, this is a grown-up situation, not one for high-schoolers, no offense. to think that most men lie is an extremely bitter way of thinking, IMO. point is, they have only been out on one date, so how can being naive hurt her so much when she is not that emotionally involved at this time?
babbah Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 well, you shouldnt believe eveything he told you... i agree with others, i dont think he is interested or serious about this stuffs... coz if he's really into you, he'll see you as one of his priorities... ah, lets admit it, most men are very good at lying....
huz68qog Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 well, this is a grown-up situation, not one for high-schoolers, no offense. to think that most men lie is an extremely bitter way of thinking, IMO. point is, they have only been out on one date, so how can being naive hurt her so much when she is not that emotionally involved at this time? no offense taken, and I'm a Grown ass women. to think that most men not all lie is reality sweetie. and not just men but people in general. you have to believe until proved wrong. my fault got side tracked in responding after one date no need to try and pick a person apart and catch them up in a possible lie. i not bitter just honest.
amaysngrace Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 no offense taken, and I'm a Grown ass women. to think that most men not all lie is reality sweetie. and not just men but people in general. you have to believe until proved wrong. my fault got side tracked in responding after one date no need to try and pick a person apart and catch them up in a possible lie. i not bitter just honest. we have to disagree because i am an honest person who believes others are good until they prove otherwise. i try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, just as i would, in your words, "like to have done to me". i think it's unfortunate that you have had bad experiences in your lifetime that would lead you to believe most people lie. okay. so maybe i'm wrong in calling it bitter? perhaps i should say hardened. but i think it just may be that you have had deep pain so you feel you need to put a structure around your heart. and if that is the case, i feel very bad for you.
Wing Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Yeah, man are very good at lying. Something to share: I met a guy two years ago, he after me only for that one thing, and after a while he realised he can not get what he wants, guess what he told me? He said He is seriously sick, and doctor said he will die in a year or two. He EVEN named the illness, (I will name it here), the prevalence of that illness is about 1 in 50,000. and there is no cure. He said he would go to solicitor the following week to write his will, that he would write my name to inherit all his property (he has a big house, etc.). According the illness he named and the length he told me he has been diagnosied, he should not be able to move his limbs, by the time he told me that. Two years later, now, as far as I know he still alive and keep telling his lie to more girls. -wing
Wing Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 To add something. I generally believe what people says as long as it sounds reasonable. And I always think the good side of a person, although have been hurt cause I mis-trust someone. his dad could be really sick, I agree with the previous post that, show your concern next time when you speak to him. Time will tell. -wing
SuperMonk Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 well, this is a grown-up situation, not one for high-schoolers, no offense. to think that most men lie is an extremely bitter way of thinking, IMO. point is, they have only been out on one date, so how can being naive hurt her so much when she is not that emotionally involved at this time? I disagree. I'm a dude and if my mom was in the hospital I'd talk about her for lengths and still try to make time to meet a girl I'm interested in even for at least just an hour.
amaysngrace Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Yeah, man are very good at lying. According the illness he named and the length he told me he has been diagnosied, he should not be able to move his limbs, by the time he told me that. Two years later, now, as far as I know he still alive and keep telling his lie to more girls. -wing i was married for 9 years to a man who was a liar. i have a right to think all men lie based on my experience, as well. yet i remain hopeful that many do not. i refuse to be reduced to believing that. no way. it's just not who i am.
amaysngrace Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I disagree. I'm a dude and if my mom was in the hospital I'd talk about her for lengths and still try to make time to meet a girl I'm interested in even for at least just an hour. even if your mom was critical? you would make time for some girl you took out once instead of being by your mother's side??
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