Dumping is hard Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 I broke up with my boyfriend of four years last week. It is something that was a long time coming. He did not want the break at all, it was initiated totally by myself. I feel terrible. He keeps asking me why, and crying. The truth is, I can't tell him why. I am just not in love, I feel like I am his mother and I am just not happy. But none of these reasons he understands. And when I tell him, even to my ears, they sound like weak excuses. I have treated him badly, he is the nicest guy in the world. I don't know what to do to make it easier or better for him. He wants me to come past all the time (we lived together), he got angry with me when I didn't want to see him this weekend. It is not that I don't want to see him, I just could not stand the questions and tears. I wish to could curl up in a ball and die. I love and care for him so much, hurting a nice, wonderful guy like him is the worst thing I have ever done. How can I make this easier for him. Every where I read is no contact, but how do I do no contact when he keeps calling me and wanting to see me?? The worst thing is that I think that everytime I see him, it gives him hope.
PlentyLV007 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Wow....okay...first off...My hats off to you for being a mature person and breaking it off, before it got ugly. Now I know this is going to be hard to do...but, you have to tell him why....it's going to make him and you feel bad, but...it will make him a much better and stronger person and honestly...after all the years and love you both went through he deserves the truth. FACT: TRUTH HURTS I know your hurting and you feel like crap! I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years and let me tell you, it wasn't easy. He only called me twice and never looked for me or anything. Let's just say it was in the cards...it was over long before I broke up with him but....I stood around for all the right reasons.....his grandmother was dying and I wanted to be there for support. I loved him. I had to be there with his family that was also my family at the time. The NC is one of the best methods to help get over someone....He might call and come look for you and keep calling but he will realize and he will get tired of calling. This is hard for you....to have to see and hear him go through this pain but, it has to happen. After a break up sure it sucks and you worry about them and don't want them to hurt ,but...you have to let them hurt just like you are.... It will pass....and maybe in the future you guys can be friends...MAYBE....I wouldn't recommend it though because it brings up past feelings but, hey....maybe things will change, maybe not.... GOOD LUCK
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