pricillia Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 As most of us do I have always told myself that I could never and would never be with a MM, I did not even like him in the beginning because I knew what he was like, I did everything to avoid him. I work with this man as he is one of my piers, I often felt his stare in the office and it made me feel very uncofortable. He knew that I did not care for him for a very long time. I finally decided one day that I would let it go and be a little nicer to him then he started to e-mail me on a regular basis always bringing up the fact that he would like to see me outside of work. After many months of saying no to him and after I started to develop some feelings for him I finally said yes to him. We have been having relations for about 4 months now however the worst possible thing happened, I got preagnant and through much deliberation and many many tears I did not go through with the preagnancy. I never approached him he always, very dilgently mind you came to me when he wanted a little extra on the side. Now keep in mind I have not been with anyone in years and years and I know that I was with him in this intimate way because I was afraid of opening up my life to that someone special and letting them in, he know states that he would like for me to pretend that he does not exist, cand someone help me do that, and give me some words of wisdom to be strong because I would like to have that special someone all to myself and I know that it is not him. He has said many things then takes them back and it has driven me crazy. I often leave him alone and this time it is for good but I still at times feel weak...so if anyone can help me with this because I can not get him out of my head.
riobikini Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 Priscilla, -with everything in you, take a stand! He is using you, you already know that, -and you are having so much trouble accepting that, -as well as this whole mess. The pregnancy and how it was dealt with have to still be very fresh and painful to you and, no doubt, have a huge bearing on all this. If it were my friend, or daughter, I would certainly be sticking by you, but I would also be taking you by the hand to see about getting some type of counseling to help you get through this. Additional suggestions: if you are able to change jobs or the area or location in which you work for the company you are employed by, please do give it some thought, -I think it would be much better for you. Also, block his email, if possible, in case of unexpected email contact from him, which is something you certainly do not need. (I realize it may be a work email and may be necessary not to block him or delete him). Under no circumstances do I believe you should voluntarily continue to see or communicate with this man. The 'strength' you are looking for is, I believe, just strong encouragement from others, until you can carry on your own battle with this and settle it as well as you can. So that's what I hope I have done. I sincerely wish for you all the strength you need from every wise, caring, and reliable source you can get it. Priscilla, do know that you are not the only one who has ever found herself in the middle of such pain, and confusion, and with all the feelings you must have, right now. Unfortunately, many have walked that same road. Know that it is not endless and there comes a crossroads -a time- where your hardest lessons and experiences from this will be behind you. Keep posting as you feel the need and my thoughts are with you. Take Care. -Rio P.S. For everyone reading this, I think this is as good an example as you can find where complete and total 'No Contact' is called for, under all the circumstances.
Author pricillia Posted March 19, 2006 Author Posted March 19, 2006 riobikini, Pricillia here, thanks for the support, I know that he does not respect me in the way that I am looking for. he also tells me that he has a sickness and that he is going through therapy, not sure if I believe him at all as I know that it is part of him manipulative spirit to keep things quiet. THE ONLY GOOD THAT HAS COME FROM THIS IS THAT I NOW KNOW THAT I WOULD LIKE TO OPEN MY LIFE TO A GOOD MAN AND HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP. thanks again for the reply!!!
riobikini Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 You are more than welcome. And I have to disagree, Priscilla, -this man is quite sick: mentally! (A Smile and wink just for you, -and try to have a good evening!) -Rio
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