daisyduke1234 Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 Okay. Could use some advice with this one as am totally and utterly confused about where this guy is coming from…. I met this guy last year when he joined our department for a 6 month training post. Everybody said he was incredibly shy, but we seemed to get on very well and people commented on how much of a natural rapport we had and that there was obvious chemistry between us, and our body language said it all. People also commented that he was very different around me compared with other staff members. Anyway, one of our colleagues left and had a leaving party. I was unable to go due to having other commitments that evening. The next week I asked him whether he had gone and he said he was unable to go as well and I would have been noticeably missed had he gone. I was then due to take a few days holiday and he emailed me to say that the office would be in mourning until my return and in another email told he was lost without me. Ok, maybe no big deal, but by this time I had begun to develop feelings for him. My friend had her tarot cards done and apparently he and I came up on them. She was told that she had a friend (me) who had somebody who liked me very much a very kind, well travelled man (he has lived all over the world) liked me, but was too shy to say anything, but could only express himself with his grey eyes (he has grey eyes!) Okay, perhaps a lot of rubbish, but I just don’t know. On his last day, my friend told him that I was going to be distraught when the time came to say goodbye and he said he would feel the same. He then told me when we were having a chat, what will I do without you? On his last day I stayed late and offered to drive him home. I also gave him a card with a note saying how much I would like to keep in touch. He told me that he was very touched and there was no doubt in his mind that we wouldn’t as he too would like to as well. When I dropped him off, he gave me a big hug and said he would see me in a couple of weeks – we had planned to meet up for a drink and dinner. My friend also came along and when I was at the bar he was asking my friend about my ex-boyfriend. He said he didn’t know why I had put up with him as he had treated me really badly. Again I took him home that night and when I dropped him off he asked whether we could do it again. Since then, we’ve been emailing and texting one another a great deal. He has invited me along to a concert with him and his 2 friends and their partner and my friend and her husband. Again, I don’t know whether as a friend. He has also emailed me some beautiful pieces of music. There is one random song that he emailed me, and I just don’t know how to take it. I’ve looked at the lyrics and can’t help but wonder whether this is what he is trying to tell me. I may be reading too much into it, but it seems like it could have been handpicked especially for the lyrics. He sent me a rather down email – he is preparing for the biggest exams of his life – so I called him the next day to tell him that I was worried about him and suggested we met up that weekend to give himself a break. He seemed, I thought, pleased to hear from me. He said he’d have to let me know about the weekend. Anyway, he emailed me back and said he would love to watch the sunset with me. Again, I just don’t know whether a guy would just ask a normal friend to do this? So we met up and we talked and talked etc. had a laugh, but nothing was said and when the time came for me to drop him off, he couldn’t get out of the car fast enough. I later texted him to say thanks for a nice evening and he texted back to say that he had had a nice time and it was good to see me again. I simply don’t know whether he likes me or not. What do others think? Is he just shy or what? The lyrics: I met this girl She's walking through one of my dreams She kissed my eyes And everything that she said Made so much sense to me That I still feel like I'm half asleep My dark angel She gave me diamonds for eyes She walked by Now I'm hypnotised By this dream That just won't stop And I feel Like I've always been lost in this dream The rumours of heaven Only speed the truth on earth My dark angel Shine your light on my curse You are the other that I have to find Until I do I guess I'll see you 'round my mind So Colorado Is a place I have to go I heard a rumour She loves the mountains and the snow My dark angel She gave me diamonds for eyes My dark angel I offer you my heart My dark angel I think I loved you from the start 'Cause there is this face I know That I've never seen Sometimes I feel I'm living in Someone else's dream Still I'd like to thank you For stopping to talk And I wonder Just into who's dream did who walk Oh my dark angel Shine your light on me Shine your light Shine your light Shine your light on me
basscatcher Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 It sounds to me like this guy is into you. He sounds like he is afraid to persue you any further out of fear of rejection. If he isnt one to be really social with people and you and he clicked I think he is afraid. There could also be another issue that is holding him back. He might have some kind of baggage that he is afraid if you find out you will bail on him. I think he is obviously insecure about something and he is afraid you won't accept whatever it is--could be something in his past or it could be that he is afraid you will reject him.. I think you need to open up and tell him how you feel about him and then step back and wait to see hs response. If you feel more for him then JUST friends tell him. If you want to take your friendship a step further tell him you are interested. You will be sure to get an answer... I too fell for a guy at work whom EVERYONE said he was obviously interested in me. He and I clicked more then he did with anyone. He and I didn't work out. I don't know why to this day but he was afraid of something. He admitted he was interested in me but only wanted to be friends. Our onlookers were is disbelief he only wanted friendship when his body language and attention said otherwise. He currently lost that job and is a bagboy at a grocery store in his 40s.. WTF is a 40+ yr old working as a bagboy in a grocery store??? He is smart, has a education, is a gentle soul of sorts... I never found out. Seeing him accept a lower position in life (from a financial institution job to a grocery store bagboy) left a distaste in my mouth. He had some baggage in his personal life that I don't think would have set well with me. Maybe that is why he wouldn't persue a serious relationship with me and chose to only be friends.. He and I no longer talk or see each otherl. I have relocated to another city 4 hrs away. He still works as a bagboy in that grocery store.... I have moved on and earned a college education and I want a better life for myself. So for whatever reason your guy isn't making a move you should (I think) at least tell him how you feel and see what his response is. Better to be upfront early then to wait a long period of time-develop deeper feelings and desires for him only to be shot down and heartbroken.. Your feelings are still early enough if it turns out to be a negative reaction you can handle it with more ease. Best of luck to you and I pray the outcome will be to your approval.
Author daisyduke1234 Posted March 19, 2006 Author Posted March 19, 2006 Thanks for your thoughts. I do get the impression that he has been hurt before in a relationship, but I cant ask him as it isn't anything to do with me. BUT would you say the above was normal, do you think he does actually like me as a friend or has potential feelings that could indicate he feels more for me than a friend?
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