lilylove Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 I am a 29yr old woman in the military currently in a friendship/intimate relationship with another military person. The person that I am seeing has been divorced already with kids. I also a divorced woman with kids. We have been seeing each other for 2 1/2 months now and we have good times together. The problem is he says if I ever mention love to him, then we are splitsville. He will not see me anymore. He is also very independent , like myself. Both of us have been through the divorce thing already. My problem is that I am falling for him, but I will never tell him. If I tell him, then I will lose him. So what's next for us?? I like him so much, and loving him wouldn't be hard for me.
Shan n Posted March 22, 2006 Posted March 22, 2006 I guess my question is - what does he want out of this relationship? And furthermore, what do you want out of this relationship? If he or you only want friendship, then I wouldn't go any further with it...although I know that can be hard at times. If he is that afraid of love, commitment, or whatever, then he should seek help or stay away from it, because he will only hurt others who are wanting more. One more thing, if you can't talk to him about this, then there is definitely a major problem. Communication is key! And remember, you have to be satisfied before you can satisfy someone else. Good luck, Shan n;)
MadDog Posted March 22, 2006 Posted March 22, 2006 If simply mentioning love will make him completely go AWOL, I'd say this guy is not looking for a serious relationship. It's going to be up to you to realize this and to pull away if you find yourself becoming increasingly emtionally invested in him like you are now. MD
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