Guest Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 He says he loves me very much but doesn't know what role he wants me to fulfill in his life. He knows without question that he wants me in his life. He calls at least once a day and we talk for at least an hour. We live 1500 miles apart so seeing each other requires some planning. His indecision is driving me crazy. It's tough hearing the man you love say "I love you" but not be willing to take one step forward. He's dealt with a very painful divorce 5 years ago and said he's only felt divorced the last year and a half. The divorce was a result of his addiction to porn which he has since dealt with via counseling. He's asked me to give him some time to figure out what he wants to do with his life/love. He's also told me that he can't be selfish and ask me not to see other people while I wait for him. In my heart, I believe that if he's willing to "risk it", I can't mean that much to him. I can't seem to help pressuring him to make up his mind and am afraid I'm doing more harm than good. Every time I try to walk away, we end up talking within 24 hours - he usually calls me. At this point, should I initiate NC and stick to it? I'm wondering if I give him time away if he'll come to some realization (be it good/bad) about our relationship. Or is this a case of "he's just not that into you?"
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