Guest Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 I had a long-term affair with a co-worker just prior to his engagement. We broke it off when he proposed, and we still talk and work closely together. He wants me to attend the wedding, but I feel differently. Any words of advice???
Curmudgeon Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 If you have to ask you're obviously not comfortable with the idea and shouldn't attend. He shouldn't have asked you to. Besides, the marriage will likely be temporary given his obvious lack of character.
whichwayisup Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 I had a long-term affair with a co-worker just prior to his engagement. We broke it off when he proposed, and we still talk and work closely together. He wants me to attend the wedding, but I feel differently. Any words of advice??? If you go to this wedding, you BOTH are making a fool of his bride. That's just a really s***ty thing to do, and he never should have asked you to go. Say no. It's just wrong, and I think under the circumstances he will understand that you can't go.
HokeyReligions Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 Would you be comfortable with an ex at your wedding? Or with your groom's ex at your wedding? Bow out gracefully. It might have just been a general invite so as not to make it seem like you were excluded if he invited other co-workers. Besides, it sounds like you will feel uncomfortable there so why put yourself through it?
Guest Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 If you go to this wedding, you BOTH are making a fool of his bride. That's just a really s***ty thing to do, and he never should have asked you to go. Say no. It's just wrong, and I think under the circumstances he will understand that you can't go. Thanks for all the replies. I agree with what has been said, and I have made most of these points to him. But when the affair ended, he insisted we were still "close friends" and says he can't imagine me not being there. I think it is entirely selfish, and that he doesn't want his fiance and other co-workers to wonder why I'm not there. Part of me does want to maintain the friendship and go, but as you all picked up on, I really don't feel comfotable attending.
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