DepressedWaiting Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 I just stumbled upon this article, if you type "invovled with a married man" into google, it's the very first site on the list that comes up. That article says that "Contrary to popular belief, the 'other woman' is as likely to 'win' a war over a man as his wife is. That's one of the reasons why there are so many divorces." And it also says "If you pursue this relationship you will have no more powers of prediction about the future than you would have with an unmarried man.". http://www.ivillage.co.uk/relationships/dating/dategame/qas/0,,161284_155970,00.html I sat there after reading it, scratched my head and then had a good laugh at it. Was this a therapist who wrote that article?
No Stress Lady Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 No - Sally Ann Lasson is best known as a cartoonist but is obviously earning a few quid moonlighting as an "Agony Aunt" as we call them here in the UK!!! She actually had an affair with Princess Diana's brother whilst he was married if I recall correctly. So no, I wouldn't call her a therapist!!! I guess the main gist of her response is: Be careful what you wish for as one day you may get it (and that might be a tragedy)..................
erika2610 Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 I just stumbled upon this article, if you type "invovled with a married man" into google, it's the very first site on the list that comes up. That article says that "Contrary to popular belief, the 'other woman' is as likely to 'win' a war over a man as his wife is. That's one of the reasons why there are so many divorces." And it also says "If you pursue this relationship you will have no more powers of prediction about the future than you would have with an unmarried man.". http://www.ivillage.co.uk/relationships/dating/dategame/qas/0,,161284_155970,00.html I sat there after reading it, scratched my head and then had a good laugh at it. Was this a therapist who wrote that article? I'm sorry, but I don't believe the OW is as likely to 'win' him. The MM may leave the W.. but from what I see, 9 times out of 10 they go back. There are MM who do leave the W for good to be with the OW, but I don't think it's as often as you'd think.. Plus, I wouldn't say you're 'winning' if you manage to get a MM to leave his W.. how big of a prize can he be?
Author DepressedWaiting Posted March 18, 2006 Author Posted March 18, 2006 I think they only go back if their divorce hasn't been finalized. If they leave to be with the OW and haven't filed for divorce yet or their divorce hasn't been finalized yet... I think that's when you see this happening. However if a man files for divorce and REALLY goes through with it until the divorce has been finalized... I don't think that applies to such men as often at all. Only those who leave BEFORE their divorce has been finalized, those are the ones yo-yoing back and forth. Yuck. Anyways, I just stumbled upon that article and was curious about it, that's all.
Chump64 Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 There are a lot of stats out there that support the opposite of this theory. I've heard them from counselors as well. Basically chances are very slim that a married person will leave his / her spouse for an affair partner. In cases where the married person and affair partner actually do end up marrying, the divorce rate is something like 70 percent.
No Stress Lady Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 There are a lot of stats out there that support the opposite of this theory. I've heard them from counselors as well. Basically chances are very slim that a married person will leave his / her spouse for an affair partner. In cases where the married person and affair partner actually do end up marrying, the divorce rate is something like 70 percent. Yes I agree Chump64 - have a look at this DW: http://www.saveyourmarriagecentral.com/getinformed/stats.html In your situation DW I'm afraid the future looks very bleak - I think the chances of you and this guy having any kind of emotional success in the future are miniscule if not non-existent. Your relationship so far has been like an emotional train wreck and I think you're deluding yourself if you think it's going to improve in the future.
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