smile Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 Ok so some of you may know that I have managed to freak out this boy I am so interested in. Well, it kinda reached a head when I realized that I was making him pay for all of the mistakes my ex made. It was like I had pushed it all aside, bad things with my ex, but never really dealt with it head on. In reality I wasn't worried he would treat me like my ex, it's just some situations seemed similar to times when my ex disappointed me or just plain screwed me over. So to fix this I decided to face my demons head on.. I had lunch with my ex. I was planning on asking him a million questions and as soon as I saw him, none of it mattered. I had no feelings for him and everything just fell away. I was more certain that this new guy is nowhere near my ex.... and I saw this new guy in a more realistic light. And I was able to appreciate who he has been to me since we met. But I have this horrible case of timing. And the new guy made plans to hang out and flaked... and I freaked... bc I wanted to tell him about the lunch and how it made me realize that I treated him wrong or whatever.. so I was kinda mean... just said "you know what, forget it". I apologized the next day and mentioned the lunch with my ex... I told him everything I wanted to say in person and apologized for so much. He didn't respond. Everyone told me to leave him alone but I thought he isn't going to have a relationship with my friends and family... he is having one with me and I need to be as honest as I can about who I am. SO I wrote one more message and said I missed him. It was a light message no heaviness or craziness, and he answered. Since then I have kept the messages light. I am trying to give some slack on the line and I don't feel like I need anyone.. I have said it before but I fully feel it now. I validate myself. Thats a freaking great feeling. But I was just wondering, is there anything special I can do to keep him interested? Is there a way to reel him back in? I really like him and know this would be a great relationship for me. A change, someone who doesn't NEED me, someone I don't NEED to save. I like him because I like how I feel when I am around him. I feel comfortable to be me. Do you think he is still interested? I asked him to help me move and he said if he had the day off he would be there. Thats two weeks away... I havent seen him in almost a month. Do I just wait and see what happens. i don't want to wig out. I want to do things right and healthy here, and sometimes i need help figuring what that is. so... help?
Guest Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 If you think he isn't intersted feel free to tell me too. I have no idea when to pull back and when it's over. I have never had a healthy relationship.. it's always been so needy. What's the difference between healthy and aloof? I know my being too intense too soon had something to do with it, but he is the nice kinda guy that if it was all over I would suspect he would say something. Unless this is a hint I am supposed to be getting. Just anyone's opinion would help right now. I feel like I am hanging on by a thread.
Author smile Posted March 19, 2006 Author Posted March 19, 2006 Ok so you can totally tell me if you think he isn't interested. I just want to know what to feel. It's hard to say. I can't tell the difference between healthy and aloof. I am sure my intensity scared him, but he came at rebound time and as much as I tried to avoid it... he became a rebound guy. Sucks because I really like him. Just anyone's opinion would be appreciated. I feel like I am hanging on by a thread.
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