Goth girl Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 I am seven months pregnant from an affair with an older man when me and my fiance had broken up. We're back together now and will be getting married in a month. We were wondering if the father will still have to pay child support after we get married?
Mary3 Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 If you get a Paternity Test and it shows the older man as the biological father then Yes he must pay CS for the next 18 years of the childs life.
destination_unknown Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 Well, are you in the US or elsewhere? It depends on where you live!
luvtoto Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 Child Support? What is that? Hope everything works out for you! Whatever you do, don't rely/count on it. There's a lot of loop-holes in the system. My kid's dad found every single one of them. Hopefully, this won't be the case with you.
Curmudgeon Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 Since you'll be married to your fiance at the time the child is born, under some state laws (if you're in the US) your husband could be considered to presumptive father under the law. In that case, the biological father would not necessarily have to pay CS unless he willingly steps forward and accepts responsibility for parentage and the child's support. If I was in your shoes, I'd go for a consultation with a family law attorney before the marriage to see what the law provides for wherever you are.
penkitten Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 if you are planning to get married and spend the rest of your life with someone, does he want to raise the baby as his? if so, it will be hard to do if the other guy does the paternity test and pays support and picks the child up for visitation.
luvtoto Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 if you are planning to get married and spend the rest of your life with someone, does he want to raise the baby as his? if so, it will be hard to do if the other guy does the paternity test and pays support and picks the child up for visitation. Yea, that poses a problem. The biological father wanting to be a real dad and spend quality time with his child. This is about what is best for the child not what's best for the step-dad. He's not "the other guy", he's is the father. He has rights. Paternity most deffinetly needs to be established. Then, if the father refuses to have anything to do with the child, then he would give up his rights and this would then allow the child to be adopted cancelling out any childsupport or any rights that the real father has. If the decision is to keep the real father out of the loop completely...the child will grow up, learn the truth and quite possibly never forgive or have trust issues from it. (Living proof...right here!)
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