Author noclobber Posted March 20, 2006 Author Posted March 20, 2006 Yes, true. I think taking things said like that at face value may not be the best thing to do. NC is taking what both those women said as the truth. You can usually find out what people are really about if you are observant and do a little digging. digging a gold-digger... wow that must be interesting I would rather channel my time and energies towards some other woman
blind_otter Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I think it's important that any guy I date earn at least as much as I do. That's it. Ya know, pull your own effing weight and all that. Plus guys get their panties in a wad if you earn more money than they do. Unless they're younger than you, and who wants to date younger guys?! (well, not me.)
catgirl1927 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I think it's important that any guy I date earn at least as much as I do. That's it. Ya know, pull your own effing weight and all that. Plus guys get their panties in a wad if you earn more money than they do. Unless they're younger than you, and who wants to date younger guys?! (well, not me.) My BF makes less money than me, and is 3.5 years younger!
blind_otter Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 My BF makes less money than me, and is 3.5 years younger! Well, different strokes, I suppose. I'm also pretty traditional in relationships, so there ya go.
Author noclobber Posted March 20, 2006 Author Posted March 20, 2006 Plus guys get their panties in a wad if you earn more money than they do. If the guy is that insecure then he is not a real man, atleast according to me.
justagirliegirl Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 To each his own. My BF is a lot younger and makes a lot less but I don't care and neither does he.
blind_otter Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 If the guy is that insecure then he is not a real man, atleast according to me. I guess so, since I'm not married to him any more. I also have my own house and my car is paid for. I've spent the last 3 years dating young guys who have nothing. Unemployed, no house, no car. To be honest, it did stress me out. I don't like picking up guys, or them asking to borrow my car. So sue me.
Author noclobber Posted March 20, 2006 Author Posted March 20, 2006 To be honest, it did stress me out. I don't like picking up guys, or them asking to borrow my car. So sue me. That's a valid concern, it should be the other way round!
catgirl1927 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 That's a valid concern, it should be the other way round! No, it shouldn't be any way round. Everyone needs to have their own money and their own stuff!!!
Author noclobber Posted March 20, 2006 Author Posted March 20, 2006 No, it shouldn't be any way round. Everyone needs to have their own money and their own stuff!!! I didn't mean about money or car. I meant that the guys dating blind_otter should come in their cars and pick her up instead of she going to their place in her car and picking them up
catgirl1927 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I didn't mean about money or car. I meant that the guys dating blind_otter should come in their cars and pick her up instead of she going to their place in her car and picking them up OHHHH! I see. I misunderstood.
blind_otter Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 OHHHH! I see. I misunderstood. Seriously, it's an epidemic.College town, I guess. It got to the point where I would meet a guy and ask him if he had a job and owned his own car. I also had to ask if he lived with his mother. That's one of many reasons I will not date men in their 20s. All the guys in my area are students.
Author noclobber Posted March 20, 2006 Author Posted March 20, 2006 Seriously, it's an epidemic.College town, I guess. It got to the point where I would meet a guy and ask him if he had a job and owned his own car. I also had to ask if he lived with his mother. That's one of many reasons I will not date men in their 20s. All the guys in my area are students. Hi b_o, I earn $4800/year, I don't have a car, and I live with my dear mommy. Would you like to go out with me? I can pick you up in my bi-cycle. If you don't say 'yes' I am gonna start crying
jerbear Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I also have my own house and my car is paid for. I've spent the last 3 years dating young guys who have nothing. Unemployed, no house, no car. B_O reading some of your posts I can see you have made great strides. To be honest, it did stress me out. I don't like picking up guys, or them asking to borrow my car. I don't blame you, had female friends ditch the guy, I was one of them guys for having a college car. The unemployed guys or can't hold employment creates strifes within families. Honestly I wonder how some women deal with it and still want to have kids with the guy. Someone I know and married a guy that didn't have a job, HS drop out, unemployed, etc... I think there should be more reasonable standards. I have some potentials that didn't like the idea I'm don't have a house and vice versa. There was an ex that was not impressed with my car because it was fully equipped so I wouldn't get lost. I didn't buy it because I wanted to impress people but more so I don't get lost. I dislike the idea of dealing with paper maps while driving and having to deal with detours, sanity checks on mapping sites; etc... An ex was so upset I've spent the extra money (before I knew her) on a NAV system just because I dislike dealing with paper maps and asking gas station attendents for directions. I think most women would be happy that a guy proactively fixes a personal flaw. I just want to say, guys just can't get ahead sometimes. One ex commented that I am overpaid, another said I made to little. Money does tend to provide more options.
catgirl1927 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Seriously, it's an epidemic.College town, I guess. It got to the point where I would meet a guy and ask him if he had a job and owned his own car. I also had to ask if he lived with his mother. That's one of many reasons I will not date men in their 20s. All the guys in my area are students. I lived in a college town until about 2 years ago, I left because after my divorce I faced the same thing. Everyone had that student lifestyle, which was really cool and fun when I was there, but I was out of it and it just didn't work. Plus, you can only hear "Damn, she looks good for her age" or "She's really hot for an older woman" so many times before it starts to hurt your feelings.
jerbear Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I lived in a college town until about 2 years ago, I left because after my divorce I faced the same thing. Everyone had that student lifestyle, which was really cool and fun when I was there, but I was out of it and it just didn't work. Plus, you can only hear "Damn, she looks good for her age" or "She's really hot for an older woman" so many times before it starts to hurt your feelings. I like my older women, even as a student I wouldn't say that! Granted I'm a grad student now and get, "you're a perverted old man" Really scary when they call you that and I'm only 30. I even get it from my younger cousins and friends kids, "you're old!!" :laugh:
catgirl1927 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I was the cryptkeeper at 32, it was ridiculous.
flavius Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 yes NOCLOBBER....its about as rediculous as you being attracted to her becasue of her beautiful face or nice body. men go for youth and beauty and women go for money. end of story. Dang, Alpha!! If I said that on LoveShack I'd get skinned alive. How can I get by with stating the obvious, too? :lmao:
Author noclobber Posted March 20, 2006 Author Posted March 20, 2006 Dang, Alpha!! If I said that on LoveShack I'd get skinned alive. How can I get by with stating the obvious, too? :lmao: I agree... but this girl that is quoting 100k is very average looking. I got attracted to her b'cos she had some of the other things that I look for in a girl. When she was repeatedly saying 100k I said "It's okay for you to expect someone that makes that much money but are you worth it in the first place?". I also told that Melania Knauss can get a rich man like Donald Trump b'cos she is that good looking Fire the arrows now
alphamale Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I also told that Melania Knauss can get a rich man like Donald Trump b'cos she is that good looking women will usually go for the guy with money and power but few can get a man like that. men, on the other hand, will usuually go for the young and beautiful woman but few can get a woman like that.
SmoochieFace Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 women will usually go for the guy with money and power but few can get a man like that. men, on the other hand, will usuually go for the young and beautiful woman but few can get a woman like that. Interesting observation... although I doubt its veracity. For the sake of argument... let's say that this IS true. If women usually go for the guy with all the goodies but only a few get them then why do they even try in the first place knowing that the odds are stacked against them. Same thing applies for the men - why do it? Face it - most people aren't *the s**** in the first place so why in the hell do they think they are *entitled* to have those who are?
justagirliegirl Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I agree... but this girl that is quoting 100k is very average looking. I got attracted to her b'cos she had some of the other things that I look for in a girl. When she was repeatedly saying 100k I said "It's okay for you to expect someone that makes that much money but are you worth it in the first place?". I also told that Melania Knauss can get a rich man like Donald Trump b'cos she is that good looking Fire the arrows now But you said she made 70k and so 100k isn't that much of a stretch and like others have said that isn't all that in Cali.
SmoochieFace Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 But you said she made 70k and so 100k isn't that much of a stretch and like others have said that isn't all that in Cali. If some $70K/yr woman approached me for my $100K/yr salary I'd tell her to go and find herself a job that pays $170K/yr, she can keep it all for herself, and she can leave me the hell alone.
justagirliegirl Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I wouldn't go out with partying college student boys either. Just not my type. I like a guy who is on the quiet reclusive side. Smart and nerdy. Not materialistic. Someone with a great sense of humor. Doesn't matter what age or income they have as long as they have the qualities I'm looking for.
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