alphamale Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 It shouldn't bother you that this girl feels this way. You know upfront what she is looking for and what she rules out and you know you don't fit her priorities. Its not a reflection against you personally. WTF do you mean its not a reflection on you personally? You're nuts! Of course it is.......if I say to you HOKEY that I only date blonde women who wear a size 2 with fake boobs and you don't fit that criteria then it has affected you personally. When you interview for a job and don't get it that, is a reflection on you. You did not fit the employer's criteria or you did but only partially....and there was someone better.
Author noclobber Posted March 20, 2006 Author Posted March 20, 2006 WTF do you mean its not a reflection on you personally? You're nuts! Of course it is.......if I say to you HOKEY that I only date blonde women who wear a size 2 with fake boobs and you don't fit that criteria then it has affected you personally. When you interview for a job and don't get it that, is a reflection on you. You did not fit the employer's criteria or you did but only partially....and there was someone better. Well said Alpha!
bab Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I would not even consider dating anyone who made less than $2k/yr. I agree. Must make more than 2K. Seriously though. There is a fine line between wanting financially stability and a golddigger. Generally, naming a specific number is a red flag.
Author noclobber Posted March 20, 2006 Author Posted March 20, 2006 I agree. Must make more than 2K. Seriously though. There is a fine line between wanting financially stability and a golddigger. Generally, naming a specific number is a red flag. Yeah HokeyReligions, did you mean $200k/year?
catgirl1927 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I just came back from lunch with my 2 Indian colleagues (females) at work. We happened to talk about dating and marriage and I was surprised to no end when one of them said "I will not even consider dating a guy if he is earning less than $100,000 per year". I was curious and asked why does money have to come into the picture and she said that is very very important for love. I have to say that I was slightly attracted to this woman and thought about asking her out. But I have already lost whatever attraction I had for her.. I don't know whether I am wrong but I find this to be ridiculous... I just got a new job (yesterday) that is going to pay me $90,000 per year... but its still 10grand less I would like to know women's opinion about this. How important is money for you? This is the only post I read on this thread, I just couldn't get past it. You really, really, really need to find different women to hang out with. Money has nothing, nothing, NOTHING to do with love. Nothing at all. That girl is a whore. Whether it is once for cash on the nightstand or over a period of time in exchange for a retirement plan, hooking is hooking. Stay away from women like that, they are why you feel about women the way you do!!!
alphamale Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Money has nothing, nothing, NOTHING to do with love. Nothing at all. Hmmm...that's funny CATGURL....then why is it that when a man pulls up to valet his Mercedes all the women are craning their necks to see who gets outta the car? And why don't any women crane their necks to see who's getting out of the 10 year old beat-up Ford pickup truck? Basically, having money (atleast for a man) gives one many more opportuniteis to find love.
catgirl1927 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Hmmm...that's funny CATGURL....then why is it that when a man pulls up to valet his Mercedes all the women are craning their necks to see who gets outta the car? And why don't any women crane their necks to see who's getting out of the 10 year old beat-up Ford pickup truck? Basically, having money (atleast for a man) gives one may more opportuniteis to find love. It's not love. Those women you are talking about are not about love. You may love the way she makes you feel, because normally those women are VERY pretty, but you are just an ATM to her. Those women love themselves, and only themselves. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, because it does, more often than not. But it is not love.
justagirliegirl Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 WTF do you mean its not a reflection on you personally? You're nuts! Of course it is.......if I say to you HOKEY that I only date blonde women who wear a size 2 with fake boobs and you don't fit that criteria then it has affected you personally. When you interview for a job and don't get it that, is a reflection on you. You did not fit the employer's criteria or you did but only partially....and there was someone better. But that is just life. Everyone has preferences. What about the woman MD who really only wants to date peers? I wouldn't call that gold digging and I don't think a woman who makes 70k is a gold digging leach either.
catgirl1927 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Money does give you the opportunity to find more SEX. Maybe that's really what you mean.
catgirl1927 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 But that is just life. Everyone has preferences. What about the woman MD who really only wants to date peers? I wouldn't call that gold digging and I don't think a woman who makes 70k is a gold digging leach either. I think that's different, and the two sitations are easy to distinguish from each other. She's not naming an income requirement for her to spread it. She's saying it's easier when two partners are on a more equal playing field. I really don't get involved with people who don't have a college degree. It's not an income requirement, although someone could say it is because people with degrees tend to make more money. But it's more because of the inevitable inequity between people with differing levels of education. Also, people who didn't go to college tend to see it as an option, and for my kids, college is a requirement, it is not negotiable, so whoever I have them with would have to feel that college is important.
justagirliegirl Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Hmmm...that's funny CATGURL....then why is it that when a man pulls up to valet his Mercedes all the women are craning their necks to see who gets outta the car? And why don't any women crane their necks to see who's getting out of the 10 year old beat-up Ford pickup truck? Basically, having money (atleast for a man) gives one many more opportuniteis to find love. Most everyone looks to see who is in an expensive car. Just a few weeks ago people were posting pictures of their cars on a board and people who had the cool cars got all the positive comments from men and women. People who posted cars that weren't considered cool (Hyundai Sonata or whatever) even though they were brand new, got no comments at all.
justagirliegirl Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I think that's different, and the two sitations are easy to distinguish from each other. She's not naming an income requirement for her to spread it. She's saying it's easier when two partners are on a more equal playing field. I really don't get involved with people who don't have a college degree. It's not an income requirement, although someone could say it is because people with degrees tend to make more money. But it's more because of the inevitable inequity between people with differing levels of education. Also, people who didn't go to college tend to see it as an option, and for my kids, college is a requirement, it is not negotiable, so whoever I have them with would have to feel that college is important. I think you are saying the same thing just in a more socially acceptable way. If the person has a degree but their life career choice is manager at a fast food joint then what?
Guest Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Well, not just women do that. Seems like all the young guys in my company are looking for women who are either from good families, or make good money and "preferably bought a house already" ...
genegri Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Well, not just women do it. Seems like all the young guys in my life are looking for women who are from good families, or make good money or "preferably bought a house already" ...
Guest Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 When you interview for a job and don't get it that, is a reflection on you. You did not fit the employer's criteria or you did but only partially....and there was someone better. Not suiting one particular set of requirements is not anything to do about one's inferiority or superiority. I may be over-qualified for another job and the perfect fit for yet another where other people don't meet the qualifications. To think that there's something 'wrong' with you because you don't fit one particular set of expectations is craziness; nobody can possibly be perfect for every job or every partner. The key to finding both job and partner is finding the ones whose specifications meet your qualities, period. It's not about being 'better' or 'worse' just a good fit for one particular spot among millions.
alphamale Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Money does give you the opportunity to find more SEX. Maybe that's really what you mean. Incorrect CATGURL....money gives one more opportunity in EVERY area of life including finding relationships...be they casual or serious. I don't see too many wealthy men without female companionship (whatever that companionship may be) and I don't see too many attractive women without male companionship.
catgirl1927 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I think you are saying the same thing just in a more socially acceptable way. If the person has a degree but their life career choice is manager at a fast food joint then what? Huh. I think you might be right, just the way I say it sounds less like golddigging. I guess it just depends on WHY you say it, what your real reasons are. I'm thinking of women who don't intend to work, who are just looking for someone to pay their bills. I married a guy with no degree who had very little ambition, and we didn't work out because he was lazy and didn't want the same things I did. It was because he wasn't ambitious, and I am. But the end result of ambition is usually money. But I'm not looking for someone to pay my bills, I'm mostly interested in someone who is going to want to live in a nice place, have nice things and send our kids to good schools. I wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't care about living in a bad neighborhood and sending the kids just whereever. It's not particularly about money, it's mostly about lifestyle. The key difference between me and those women is that I work too, and I don't think someone should pay me to have sex with him. I still say that for a girl to say she won't date a guy unless he makes X dollars is pretty mercenary.
Author noclobber Posted March 20, 2006 Author Posted March 20, 2006 This is the only post I read on this thread, I just couldn't get past it. You really, really, really need to find different women to hang out with. Money has nothing, nothing, NOTHING to do with love. Nothing at all. That girl is a whore. Whether it is once for cash on the nightstand or over a period of time in exchange for a retirement plan, hooking is hooking. Stay away from women like that, they are why you feel about women the way you do!!! Yup, I second that! It may be her standards but I got turned off by it. I mean, I was attracted to her but lost it as soon as those numbers came out of her mouth. If she had said "I want a financially responsible man" that would have sounded better. I am not over-generalizing and saying that all women are like this. It's just my "amazing good luck" that I happen to bump into such weirdos that seriously need some fixing 'upstairs' PS: Only one of the two females talked about the income figures, the other one said that numbers do not matter to her at all. She ranked character and compatability higher than income. So that's the good news, and the bad news is she is already married
catgirl1927 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Yup, I second that! It may be her standards but I got turned off by it. I mean, I was attracted to her but lost it as soon as those numbers came out of her mouth. If she had said "I want a financially responsible man" that would have sounded better. I am not over-generalizing and saying that all women are like this. It's just my "amazing good luck" that I happen to bump into such weirdos that seriously need some fixing 'upstairs' PS: Only one of the two females talked about the income figures, the other one said that numbers do not matter to her at all. She ranked character and compatability higher than income. So that's the good news, and the bad news is she is already married Yeah, we all want someone who is financially responsible. Even a guy who makes tons of money wants his non-working wife to be responsible! I'm glad you see her for what she is.
catgirl1927 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Incorrect CATGURL....money gives one more opportunity in EVERY area of life including finding relationships...be they casual or serious. I don't see too many wealthy men without female companionship (whatever that companionship may be) and I don't see too many attractive women without male companionship. Companionship is not the same as love. Money does provide more opportunity, but you're playing games with semantics. Rich men can buy better hookers, so they have an opportunity poor guys don't have. But trust me, rich guys don't always get love. That's why they have to buy so many hookers.
Art_Critic Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 the other one said that numbers do not matter to her at all. That one is the true Gold Digger... I always am weary of people that tell me how honest they are..
alphamale Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 But trust me, rich guys don't always get love. and some poor guys don't get love either....or fat guys.....or f-ugly guys.... so what's your point?
Author noclobber Posted March 20, 2006 Author Posted March 20, 2006 That one is the true Gold Digger... I always am weary of people that tell me how honest they are.. If that's the case then I had lunch with one blatant gold-digger and an ambiguous gold-digger :lmao:
catgirl1927 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 and some poor guys don't get love either....or fat guys.....or f-ugly guys.... so what's your point? My point is that exactly. Being rich doesn't get you more love. And all women are not whores.
justagirliegirl Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 That one is the true Gold Digger... I always am weary of people that tell me how honest they are.. Yes, true. I think taking things said like that at face value may not be the best thing to do. NC is taking what both those women said as the truth. You can usually find out what people are really about if you are observant and do a little digging.
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