justagirliegirl Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 neek it sometimes depends on what occupation you are in. I do make heaps more than any guy I've been with. Took me awhile to get there.
neek Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 neek it sometimes depends on what occupation you are in. I do make heaps more than any guy I've been with. Took me awhile to get there. Oh I know...but many professions are very poorly compensated for the amount of help/good work they do...and that just pisses me off. Do tell, babbah, how it's "so easy" to make all that money.
jerbear Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 Gawd, what is it, mating season or something?! Yes, apparently! personally i have a theory that gold diggers were spoiled when they grew up as a child by their parents, plus their insecurities. Basically what this screams is 'selling themselves for cash'....no different than buying a whore for a night. I said that to my ex; she hired him to do the floors, he got to do her, and she went back for more. Upsets me like no tomorrow. She says she won't have to work as hard, etc... I said to her money isn't everything. You've met me and my passion is to make sure jerks like him get their contracts cancelled. You're passion is to make money, my passion is to slow you're deals. She called me a jerk. I said he had money, I have power to get money and keep it. Now I don't make 100k per se but get tuition benefits and indirectly made over 96k last 5 years and I know I would surpass 100k next year with a new job. As a guy I personally don't pursue women who have those I would only etc... I would argue what if I'm poof or kaput or hit by a bus, can you support yourself? Most of the time, they're there to golddig. Some give legit answers like I need to know he can support the family on one income.
babbah Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 hardwork and contentment with what i have..thats my recipe...
justagirliegirl Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 Three ways. A) You make sure you're broke as a joke. B) You make sure he/she doesn't have a penchant for material things. Words don't count at all. Actions do. C) You keep your job/income a secret. I had a contractor friend, very affluent... when ladies asked him what he did for a living, he would invariably answer that he was in construction. Completely honest, yet so misleading. He'd only fess up after months of dating them, after a connection had already been established. He had the best relationships ever; never caught a single golddigger, only the most down-to-earth women. Good-looking guy, too. Probably why he could get away with it. yeah that is sorta what I do in any situation. I just don't flaunt it. If one was to look at me, they'd think I was average to poor. My bf is so adamant about not accepting a dime from me it is frustrating. I know he isn't into me for my $.
justagirliegirl Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 Oh I know...but many professions are very poorly compensated for the amount of help/good work they do...and that just pisses me off. Do tell, babbah, how it's "so easy" to make all that money. True some professions like admins do heaps of work for very little money. I guess seek out professions that pay better. I have a friend who is in sales and she has been for years and makes a lot. As for me, I am really good at what I do and places pay very well for me to do it. It took years though of working and getting experience and simply having a knack for it. Also not being afraid to ask for what I am worth. Many women simply accept what they are being offered. I always negotiate the starting rate or contract rate. Always always.
No Stress Lady Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 NO! And please, for the love of God/Allah/Buddha/Zeus/Brahma/Ahura Mazda/whatever... GET A ROOM! LMAO :lmao:
alphamale Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 A guy can have money but it doesn't mean that woman will be attracted to him. He could be a total prick and have the worst personality. Any women attracted to that? I don't think so. Money isn't everything. a man with money will always have pussy. a certain percentage of the female populus will always be attracted to ca$h (aka: gold-diggers). these women may not have the best intentions or morals but some of them are damn good looking. and plus, what money can't buy it can rent. Look at Donald Trump....he's a big time a**h*** and not even attractive but he's always got young models on his arm. have you seen his new wife?? yowzaa!
justagirliegirl Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 a man with money will always have pussy. a certain percentage of the female populus will always be attracted to ca$h (aka: gold-diggers). these women may not have the best intentions or morals but some of them are damn good looking. and plus, what money can't buy it can rent. Look at Donald Trump....he's a big time a**h*** and not even attractive but he's always got young models on his arm. have you seen his new wife?? yowzaa! True and he knows they are gold diggers but he doesn't seem to mind.
alphamale Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 True and he knows they are gold diggers but he doesn't seem to mind. he doesn't mind cause he always gets a pre-nup
Pyro Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 a man with money will always have pussy. a certain percentage of the female populus will always be attracted to ca$h (aka: gold-diggers). these women may not have the best intentions or morals but some of them are damn good looking. and plus, what money can't buy it can rent. Look at Donald Trump....he's a big time a**h*** and not even attractive but he's always got young models on his arm. have you seen his new wife?? yowzaa! Too bad there is woman out there who are that shallow. Oh well, I know what I want and I will pass on that group of woman. Woman who go for someone with money, regardless of there personality must be pretty imsecure or is lacking something mentally.
Author noclobber Posted March 18, 2006 Author Posted March 18, 2006 NO! And please, for the love of God/Allah/Buddha/Zeus/Brahma/Ahura Mazda/whatever... GET A ROOM! No worries... she started a separate thread
BenefitOfTheDoubt Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 Any idea how much money *she* makes? My friends and I all do fairly to very well for ourselves, and as a result, we tend to do nicer sorts of things together -- eating out and trips together a couple times each year and tickets to concerts and shows and sports events in our city. As a result, ideally I'd prefer to be with a guy who could afford to do these sorts of things, too. If I'm hitting it off with a guy and discover he makes less than I do, I certainly won't kick him to the curb just because his paycheck is less than mine. But if I'm sitting around with friends riffing on my hypothetical ideal mate, you can be sure that "income equal to or greater than mine" will be on the list of desirable traits. It's not so much a gold digging thing as simply a lifestyle thing.
Author noclobber Posted March 20, 2006 Author Posted March 20, 2006 Any idea how much money *she* makes? My friends and I all do fairly to very well for ourselves, and as a result, we tend to do nicer sorts of things together -- eating out and trips together a couple times each year and tickets to concerts and shows and sports events in our city. As a result, ideally I'd prefer to be with a guy who could afford to do these sorts of things, too. If I'm hitting it off with a guy and discover he makes less than I do, I certainly won't kick him to the curb just because his paycheck is less than mine. But if I'm sitting around with friends riffing on my hypothetical ideal mate, you can be sure that "income equal to or greater than mine" will be on the list of desirable traits. It's not so much a gold digging thing as simply a lifestyle thing. She earns around 70k per year
jerbear Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 This is one of the issues I contend with almost everytime. With the exception of one woman and I my income is less than hers. It also helps the women they are older than me hech a few more years of working and raises. Now the tables have turned as I've gotten a few years under my belt and actually exceeded many of the ones that have rejected me because of my income. Alot of them are now happy; which I'm happy for them that they tried and know what they want and have standards. Now it is the superficial ones that bother me, granted some people have standards, but many do not look into the future as in what can he do, does he have the ability, and can he surprise.
Author noclobber Posted March 20, 2006 Author Posted March 20, 2006 Whatever may be the reason, to me its a huge a turn off when a woman will decide whether to even open up or not based on how much I make
LongTallSally Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 yes NOCLOBBER....its about as rediculous as you being attracted to her becasue of her beautiful face or nice body. men go for youth and beauty and women go for money. end of story. i'm surprised that she only shot for 100.
Art_Critic Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 i'm surprised that she only shot for 100. I agree.. with the cost of living in Cali,100k is not much... in comparsion it is about 70k in the rest of the US
LongTallSally Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I agree.. with the cost of living in Cali,100k is not much... in comparsion it is about 70k in the rest of the US and i thought i would be flambeed for that. thanks.
Author noclobber Posted March 20, 2006 Author Posted March 20, 2006 i'm surprised that she only shot for 100. 100k is the minimum that she stated! Her exact statement was "The guy has to earn 100k or more".
Author noclobber Posted March 20, 2006 Author Posted March 20, 2006 I agree.. with the cost of living in Cali,100k is not much... in comparsion it is about 70k in the rest of the US Okay let's say I am in Iowa and this woman says "I will decide to date a guy only if he is earning 70k or more" she is out of my mind... right there!! I don't know why I feel that way... I am not able to apply logic but that's exactly what I will do.
HokeyReligions Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Well, for starters---never date a co-worker or close colleague! Ever hear the saying "first time for love, second time for money"? I married for love and if and when I ever find myself single again - I would not even consider dating anyone who made less than $2k/yr. Financial worries kills. It kills romance. It kills love. It kills marriages and relationships. It kills the spirit. It also kills people because of the stress. It can cause resentment and bitterness and loss of self-worth. I don't know that I would marry just for money - I'm not a gold-digger. But if the opportunity presented itself to me that I could marry a financially stable man I would most assuredly consider it. If I got along with the man and I though we could cohabitate happily - I would probably marry him. There are other things that I could contribute to the marriage besides money and some men value those contributions as much as a salary. I wouldn't marry a wealthy man if he didn't value those things. It shouldn't bother you that this girl feels this way. You know upfront what she is looking for and what she rules out and you know you don't fit her priorities. Its not a reflection against you personally.
LongTallSally Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 It shouldn't bother you that this girl feels this way. You know upfront what she is looking for and what she rules out and you know you don't fit her priorities. Its not a reflection against you personally. well said, hokeyreligions.
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