Guest Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 I have been with my partner for almost a year. He tells me all the time how much he loves me, when we are together things feel sooooo right. He makes me feel like I am complete and have finally found what I had been searching for BUT when we are apart he is so different, he will ignore my text messages and phone calls, sometimes for over a day. He is a full time single dad of 2 and I know he was hurt in his last relationship but I to have been hurt in the past, a lot!!, but I try not to let it affect me now. I imagine all sorts when I don't hear from him and it drives me insane. He has told my friend that he finds it hard to handle when I accuse him of things and he will never do anything to hurt me so why do i get at him so much??? I go off on one and make things worse and I know I am just going to end up pushing him away. I want to trust him and deep down I know he would not cheat on me but I can't stop the thoughts ( please help
Guest Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 I have been with my partner for almost a year. He tells me all the time how much he loves me, when we are together things feel sooooo right. He makes me feel like I am complete and have finally found what I had been searching for BUT when we are apart he is so different, he will ignore my text messages and phone calls, sometimes for over a day. He is a full time single dad of 2 and I know he was hurt in his last relationship but I to have been hurt in the past, a lot!!, but I try not to let it affect me now. I imagine all sorts when I don't hear from him and it drives me insane. He has told my friend that he finds it hard to handle when I accuse him of things and he will never do anything to hurt me so why do i get at him so much??? I go off on one and make things worse and I know I am just going to end up pushing him away. I want to trust him and deep down I know he would not cheat on me but I can't stop the thoughts ( please help i posted this the other day but got no replys please help!
Tim'sAngel Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 It sounds to me like you have trust issues. Sometimes we as women have insecurities that lie deep within us and sometimes they come out at times we arent' feeling our strongest. (I speak of personal experience) I too sometimes have fears of being cheated on by my man but I have to stop and think "ok Angie, are you fearing this because your insecure or because he shouldn't be trusted?" So far it's been the first answer. Unless he has given you hardcore proof that he shoudln't be trusted (cheating alot in past relationships, finding suspicious calls on his cell phone bill...) then my suggestion is to at least take a while to look deep within to make sure you learn to deal w/your insecurities before they ruin a good relationship. Good luck!!
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