Guest Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 Hi everyone I need some advice and I'm really really stuck! Some background - I met this girl two years ago and pretty much fell in love with her at first site. However seeing as I am terrible with women I never said anything and we slowly became really really good friends. About a year after this I got set up with another girl and have now been going out with her for a year. But the fact is I cannot get Girl A out of my mind. We are such good friends and I always wanted to tell her but theres "never a right time" Shes completely oblivious to my feelings (though IS she?) and has dated two or three guys since I've been infactuated with her. Funilly enough, my girlfriend hates Girl A obviously and I thought it'd be a good idea for them to meet to show her everything thing is cool. Funny thing though, is that Girl A hates her too for some reason. Jealous?! I hope... Anyway, it has now come to the crunch time. She is fulfilling her life long dream and moving to LA. Though I will go and visit etc, i fear that I may never see her again properly, so its time that she knows how I feel. BUT, how to tell a best friend that you're in love with them? Its going to be hard. Face to face? SMS? Email? Letter? BEFORE she moves, or when shes gone? How do I phrase it? Thanks in advance for any help! Going out of my mind, Dave
roxy_1980 Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 Ok first things first. You're leading on your current girlfriend, which isn't right. You must break up with her before you try to replace her. As for your best friend, what do you expect to happen when you tell her? Do you expect her to drop everything and stay with you? Do you expect to move with her? Since you said that you may not properly see her again if she moves, I assume your not the LDR type. If you do decide to tell her the method is unimportant. The message is paramount. Make sure you know exactly what you want to get across and how to say it without confusion to your intent. Good Luck, Roxy
Curmudgeon Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 I'm in love with my best friend! You post that almost like it's a bad thing. I can't imagine anyone I'd rather fall in love with than a best friend. I'd suggest you tell her, now, face-to-face before she leaves. Either she'll share your feelings and things will go from there or you'll ultimately save yourself a whole lot of airfare. For the record, I've been married for 10 years to my best friend of five years before we went out. She's still my best friend.
noclobber Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Most likely you will hear her say that she only likes you as a friend! I can bet the probability of this happening at 99% But if you are really really lucky then you may fall under that elusive 1% and may hear her say that she also has feelings for you. If you have come to the point where you can no longer hold it within you then its better to open up.
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