Guest Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 Just out of curiosity....I hear many people say to never move for a man/woman but what are some long distance relationships turned to more stories that actually turned out good? I met a wonderful man but he lives three hours away and I found a job down there and could actually move in with him if I wanted but I hear all these horror stories and just wanted to see what you guys thought... Thanks
whats wrong with me Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 sometimes its good sometimes its bad....if your an outgoing person who likes to meet other people and do other things you will probley be fine. If you depend on your mate for everything... it could be bad very very bad.
Lil Honey Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 I wouldn't encourage moving a great distance to be with an SO, if a person was leaving their family and friends. The reason is because that person will be in a strange place if that relationship doesn't work out. Of course, everyone knows their own needs and abilities, so if a person is outgoing, makes friends easily, etc., then it's probably worth the risk. In your case, if you have family in your current location and you move, you will only be three hours away, making it easy for you to visit.
Skeered Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 I have posted this a couple of times..but my situation worked out.. So far my SO and I have been a couple a year in April...but he moved 2200 miles to be with me 8 months ago...things couldn't be more wonderful and he says he has NO REGRETS at all...he moved here knowing noone, having no job, leaving his job of 13 years and his home and his friends. But we did it because we knew that we couldn't be more right for one another. Actually he and I have been thinkin of moving back to FL where he's from because I'm tired of being here and ready for a change...lol so after moving him out it might be my daughter, me and he allllll moving back...
Elyssa Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I've posted my story before too, but ... I moved from europe to the US to be with my husband and it was very hard, but I have absolutely no regrets. I left my family, my job of a decade (which also involved huge financial losses), my best friend... It has everything to do with how well can you deal with change, loss of friends and family, etc. As some have said, if you're an outgoing person you will be just fine.. you will meet new people, find a new job, make new friends and you will adapt in no time. If you let your boyfriend become the ONLY reason why you're there, you will be miserable... the trick to make it work is finding reasons of your own to want to be there (ie new friends, a good job, etc). -E
tidal Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 during my first long-term relationship, after dating for less than 6 months, i decided all on my own to transfer to my SO's school which was 13 hours away from my home. he did not ask me to, nor did he ever suggest it. i was the one who made all the plans. And since I was going to school, i did have my own life and we did not live together. i am in a situation right now, where my current ((not the aforementioned)) SO is begging me to move 11 hours away from my friends to move in with him. I find this idea much more scary than the last time because it is his idea, not mine. I think that is the important part. If he found the job for you and told you that you can live with him, then that might not be good for you. But if this is 200% your own decision with absolutely no pressure from your SO - then you should do fine.
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