Apathetic Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 Yeah so I ended up breaking NC 2 days ago after my EX texted me asking where the hell have I been..Then yesterday we hung out! and this was after I told myself that I have to distance myself from him b/c I dont think it will work & then I give in and see him & we end up having sex nonetheless & I know for a fact that it will happen again when we hang out next time(b/c im an idiot who cant say no) He says that "were friends trying to work on things & we'll see what happens"..Now I dont know about it..I am so mad at myself for being so weak but its like I cant say NO to him!
ehead Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 Here's what to do in a situation like this. If you are capable of distancing yourself by creating a wide emotional boundary, then simply enjoy the sex ! If not, I'd go back to NC.
Author Apathetic Posted March 17, 2006 Author Posted March 17, 2006 I cant distance myself like that.I have tried & it just does not work when I am around him.If anything,all I want to do is tell him I love him & stay in his arms forever when he holds me..
destination_unknown Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 Sweetheart, i was with somebody like this years ago. He said some terrible things to you that disrespected the person you are. It sounds very much to me like he is using you for sex. Please dont let him do this to you, i know you love him but if he loved you he wouldnt treat you like that. Would you be able to stay in those arms forever knowing he didnt respect you? Do you want it to turn into a situation where you are always waiting for his next visit and then crying with the hurt when he just walks away? You will only keep hurting over and over again. Why not break away from him and just go through the hurt once? I really, really know how hard it is to do that but the hurt of being with him when you know he doesnt love you is much worse. You sound like such a nice girl, and i bet there is someone who will love you for being a lil shy and quiet. Dont you want to feel how happy it is to be with someone you KNOW loves you for just being you?
Author Apathetic Posted March 17, 2006 Author Posted March 17, 2006 Thanks for replying..Destination: Youve made some good points..No I dont want to always be waiting for his next visit & phone call & I know ill be the one hurting myself b/c I am letting him do this.I know ill be hurting over & over & over again & that I should just let him go,but I cant just yet.. I may sound dumb but I asked myself if I was ready to let him go & be out of my life & I automatically said NO..Didnt have to think about it,and that makes me so mad b/c in a way I want him out.Also,I may sound naive but I dont think he is using me for sex..if anything,I am the one who initiates it lol I just turned 24 but I feel as if I am 15 all over again pining after my first love & going through these stupid games but I admit I am too weak right now to resist him.Thank you for saying I seem like a nice girl,I feel like I am & I know I deserve better..I just have to get the nerve to leave him completly
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