I wonder why

[123dmc]

I wonder why its like this? My husband has many co-workers that he will go out to eat lunch with sometimes. Both men and women. I have no problem with this. However, the other day he tells me that he was on a certain side of town where he does some work, and another co-worker which is a woman was on the same side of town doing work as well. So they go together and went to lunch, just them 2 becasue no one else was on that side of town that day but them. I still have no problem with this. I'm not insecure about it, I know her, shes a older lady and seems to be pretty nice. So thats not my question or concern.

 

 

The thing that gets me is, I gurantee if it were me that worked and I went out with a male co-worker for lunch, just the 2 of us, my husband would have a cow. I have come to the conclusion I don't mind because I'm secure, I think he would mind becasue he is insecure. Hes very paranoid anyway, always has been, even though theres never been a reason for him to be. Sure its good he told me he went to lunch with this other lady since it was just those 2 on that side of town that day, but had it been me having lunch with a male co-worker, he would have crapped a golden brick. Why is that? Am I right in thinking that its becasue hes insecure? Why does it seem its ok for him, but if it were me doing it I would have hell to pay?

[JadeStar]

It sounds like thats what it is, that he is insecure if you were to do it, I could be wrong though. Which is just stupid. Like you said its ok for him but not for you. I have never really understood why its ok for one but not the other.

 

 

 

 

Jade

[Lil Honey]

It's called a double-standard. It happens in different situations (and not just with men) all the time.

 

And if your husband is old enough to have grown up with parents from the depression era (when it was common to "keep 'em barefoot and pregnant"), he is even more likely to feel that women have different rules to live by.