Guest Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 Not that I was really hot. I like to think I'm all right but I feel like I'm almost hiding who I really am under my clothes now, Has anyone ever had the feeling that you were fake? I had a baby, I thought it was the biggest baby in the world but actually he was only 7.4 lbs (the rest was all me) I gained 50-60 lbs. I stopped counting after I reached 190. I was huge, and it was all my fault. I can deal with that, I know have stretch marks that circle my tummy, on my hips and stretched from my inner thigh down to my knee's, that's more difficult to handle because I can see the disgust in my boyfriends eyes. My breasts have drooped completely flat. I am 20 years old. I hate my body. I lost all of the weight I weigh 130 and I'm 5'7. except I cant reverse the damage. I cant undress infront of my boyfriend. He never wants to intimate, I have tried everything from trying to hint at it, give him back rubs, be straight forward nothing. I "m lucky if it's every few weeks and it's always a quick with clothing. I wish that he were attracted to me, i've tried so hard to loose the weight, I went to the gym almost every day. I feel like every one else noticed but him, How should I get through to him? When I was pregnant he talked to other women online which is no surprise since he did it before I was pregnant to. The women he looks at online or who are on those dating sites, don't look like me, they don't have stretch marks, they look like a 20 year old should. The funny thing is that when he was up to no good I knew it, he acted different like he was attracted to me. Since he has stayed off of the computer sex doesn't interest him? I know this sounds weird but I don't understand it.
scarletletter Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 You need to stop putting yourself down. A baby is a wonderful thing and yes, it does take a toll on your body no matter how old you are. If he doesn't appreciate you for who you are then you need to talk to him about it. This sort of thing causes eating disorders and unnecessary cosmetic surgery. Be yourself and be happy that you have a healthy baby. If he cannot handle it, that's his problem.
justagirliegirl Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 He really should love you for you not just how your body looks. You produced life and the clod should treat you like the goddess you are. I would talk to him about it.
CeeJayXX Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 In my sarcascim but with all do respect to you and your beautiful child (and be ever so thankful to have that child): When a man can have a 7.4 lb child (not just sit there sweating and saying the word push), come out of it perfect and take on all the responsibilities that a woman automatically takes on as a mother....then they can judge whomever they wish.... Those women on the internet sites are there for a reason..... no one looks exactly the same, feels or thinks the same after a child. It's a change in life for everyone but especially you. Talk to him as much as you can about it....if you have to - seek counciling. Good luck to you!
fraidycat Posted March 18, 2006 Posted March 18, 2006 Why is it everytime a woman gets involved with a complete immature dickhead she ends up asking "what can I do for him?" or "what am I doing wrong?". A baby is a wonderful thing and congratulations! Ok, now back to this loser- This guy is selfish,immature,selfish,immature,doesn't appreciate you and why are you with him? Sounds like another body pillow alert (i.e somebody so you're not stuck with nobody). Your 20 years old and you can decide to spend the rest of your life putting yourself down with someone who always makes you feel down or you can decide to get some balls and kick this loser to the curb,you're better off alone vs. in a relationship like this.
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