Pendawn Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 I've been with my bf for just over a year and we're very coupled up, but he has only had one other relationship which lasted over a year (20 months) in his life (he's mid 30s) so it's clear to me he's really not used to long term relstionships. So i know anything he does towards long term commitment is a big deal to him. Anyway the other week we were out and he was quite drunk and therefor more smoochy, we were talking about DVD movies we wanted to see together and I said there were so many we'd need to watch them 24 hours a day. He suddenly got a thoughtful look and siad "Well how would it be when I have my week off work that you come and stay for as much of the week as you can bear and I can cook for you..." etc etc. I was totally delighted he offered this without any hints form me, and siad I'd love to etc. Later on that night he brought it up again asking if I liked the idea, I said I did and any chance to spend more time with him i love (I can only stay over at his about once a month due to health reasons, and we only see each other about 2 times a week due to that and his already busy life). Then he brought up the fact that one of his friends has been asking if my bf is planning to propose to me. I never know how to deal with this and always kick myself afterwards as I end up joking about it, so i said Oh were you nonchalant with you answers? He said yes and vague etc etc...but then he said I am the closest he's ever come to almost thinking about it. Again i stupidly joked about it but he said for him that's a big thing to say. Annnnnnnyway, my point is, i got so flustreed (in a good way) about all this I didn't think it over but now looking back, do you think this asking me to stay with him for a week is a way of testing those feelings he thinks he "almost" feels about marriage etc? It only occurred to me after the fact that those 2 things may be connected (and the watching movie things was just a convienent excuse). Oh and I did ask when he was sober if he remembered what he'd said and he did and said the offer had come from a sincere place.
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