Shell Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 My boyfriend is obsessed with viewing porn - however, i dont really mind that as he is only 31. What is strange however, is one site he visited which troubls me - it was a gay site - married boys or something showing blokes. He has always said he has no time for gays so im wondering if he is hiding something. Would be interested in your thoughts on this. He used to go away for weekends with his male friend who is very shy and quiet. My guy is also quiet and is a relative introvert. I have even suggested looking at porn with him but i think he is too embarassed for that. We have lived together for 8 months
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 My boyfriend is obsessed with viewing porn - however, i dont really mind that as he is only 31. What is strange however, is one site he visited which troubls me - it was a gay site - married boys or something showing blokes. He has always said he has no time for gays so im wondering if he is hiding something. Would be interested in your thoughts on this. He used to go away for weekends with his male friend who is very shy and quiet. My guy is also quiet and is a relative introvert. I have even suggested looking at porn with him but i think he is too embarassed for that. We have lived together for 8 months This is another case of someone who should extract herself from the relationship immediately. Men who don't lean hard toward the gay lifestyle are usually repulsed by gay porn of any sort (shudder). Whether he is in the closet or out of the closet simply doesn't matter where you're concerned. It is long past time for you to upgrade in the relationship department.
Guest Posted March 19, 2006 Posted March 19, 2006 Men who don't lean hard toward the gay lifestyle are usually repulsed by gay porn of any sort (shudder). I wish people would not make statements like this as though they were fact. It is not true. Just as some women fantasize about bi or lesbian sex but would never do it, so too will men. I think your jaw would drop right off your face if you knew the extent of people's fantasy lives; they are much broader and more varied than you seem to understand. There is no need to flee this guy or to be 'repulsed' by him.
littlekitty Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Did he click around, or was it one accidental visit? The amount of pop-ups when looking for something like this, it's easy to end up somewhere you weren't intending...!!
whichwayisup Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I'm not a lesbian, yet lesbian porn is hotter than just straight sex. Maybe in his fantasy (NOT REAL) it turns him on? Don't assume the worst, k. And in viewing porn together, rent some DVD's, kick back in bed and see how things go.....
Skeered Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I know a real easy way to figure out what's going on.. TALK TO HIM...ASK HIM...lol So many people come to conclusions of what is going on in the mind of the other person without asking them. If your guy is 31 he is mature enough to speak to you regarding his viewing and what he likes to look at. I agree with the other poster stating that just because he's lookin at gay porn doesn't mean he is...maybe he was just curious to look at it...maybe it does excite him in someway but again it doesn't make him gay. I would think it would be much easier being a woman saying that lookin at other women is easier than a guy saying he was checking out other guys. But in the end the only way to truly see what is up is to TALK TO HIM...open a line of communication that he feels comfortable with opening up to you about his preferences.
Author Shell Posted March 28, 2006 Author Posted March 28, 2006 Thank you for your comments. I have taken on board what you have said and have decided that it must have been a one off though I have to say, I was a bit shocked at the time knowing what his feelings on gays is. We have discussed looking at porn together but thats as far as we got with it.
SuperMonk Posted April 1, 2006 Posted April 1, 2006 I wish people would not make statements like this as though they were fact. It is not true. Just as some women fantasize about bi or lesbian sex but would never do it, so too will men. I think your jaw would drop right off your face if you knew the extent of people's fantasy lives; they are much broader and more varied than you seem to understand. There is no need to flee this guy or to be 'repulsed' by him. Uh no, female or gay male. Gay porn is repulsive to me as a straight guy. If I were to accidentally bump into it for whatever reason I would immediately click right out there and clear out my hdd. I will not stand idly by and allow bisexuals/transexuals to transform my society into some free for all sexuality society. We must inhibit categories so we can tell each other apart. I'm tired of homosexuals crossing the line and saying "Hey it's okay, we're here , we're queer" Disgusting abominations.
catgirl1927 Posted April 1, 2006 Posted April 1, 2006 Uh no, female or gay male. Gay porn is repulsive to me as a straight guy. If I were to accidentally bump into it for whatever reason I would immediately click right out there and clear out my hdd. I will not stand idly by and allow bisexuals/transexuals to transform my society into some free for all sexuality society. We must inhibit categories so we can tell each other apart. I'm tired of homosexuals crossing the line and saying "Hey it's okay, we're here , we're queer" Disgusting abominations. Wow. Break out the burqas.
ImWithHer Posted April 1, 2006 Posted April 1, 2006 Uh no, female or gay male. Gay porn is repulsive to me as a straight guy. If I were to accidentally bump into it for whatever reason I would immediately click right out there and clear out my hdd. I will not stand idly by and allow bisexuals/transexuals to transform my society into some free for all sexuality society. We must inhibit categories so we can tell each other apart. I'm tired of homosexuals crossing the line and saying "Hey it's okay, we're here , we're queer" Disgusting abominations.Hey SuperMonk, you know what? I used to think that way, too. But then I realized that you really can't control what you're attracted to. Think about it - with all the flack gay people recieve, who the hell whould CHOOSE to be gay? Who would WANT to grow up in confusion and isolation? Some people are sexually attracted to their own gender. As long as it doesn't hurt you, why spend the energy to hate 'em? Most people want to just live their lives and find happiness - if it takes loving another man to do that, why begrudge them that? Think about this - could you CHOOSE to be gay if you wanted to? Probably not. So what makes you think gay people could choose NOT to be gay? What if the situation were reversed? What if the majority of people around you thought you being straight was an abomination? Would you abstain to please them? Go into hiding? Pretend you're not attracted to women? Try to look through someone else's eyes - you might be surprised at what you'll see.
Guest Posted April 1, 2006 Posted April 1, 2006 Gay porn is repulsive to me as a straight guy. Sushi is repulsive to me. Country music is repulsive to me. The colour olive green is repulsive to me. You are welcome to your own tastes, as am I. Neither of us, however, has been appointed arbiter of public taste therefore it is not to either of us to foist our particular tastes upon gays or olive-green loving sushi-eaters.
ImWithHer Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 Sushi is repulsive to me. Country music is repulsive to me. There's your abomination! Break out the torches and pitchforks!
Blind Illusion Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 Sushi is repulsive to me. Country music is repulsive to me. The colour olive green is repulsive to me. You are welcome to your own tastes, as am I. Neither of us, however, has been appointed arbiter of public taste therefore it is not to either of us to foist our particular tastes upon gays or olive-green loving sushi-eaters. A most excellent point & I don't say that simply because I abhor olive green myself
Tim'sAngel Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 I look at lesbo porn and think its almost hotter than straight porn and I would consider myself straight. However, I am a female and not a male. I'm not sure if that makes a difference, but I am inclined to think it does. The only person that knows the answer to this is your bf. You guys are obviously in a serious relationship if you have been living together so just talk to him. If it seems like hes hiding something, then maybe that would be cause for alarm. However I've come across some really weird stuff while porn watching. Some just right down disgusting, but I looked at it anyways just because it was in front of me. Doesn't mean I liked what I saw. And another angle you can view this in is some people (myself included) have fantasies of things we know we will never do, but there still fun fantasies to think about.
Citizen Erased Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 I will not stand idly by and allow bisexuals/transexuals to transform my society into some free for all sexuality society. We must inhibit categories so we can tell each other apart. I'm tired of homosexuals crossing the line and saying "Hey it's okay, we're here , we're queer" Disgusting abominations. You are what is wrong with this world. News Flash! This is not the 19th Century. People are entitled to live there lives in ANY way which they would like in regards to their sexuality because what gives people like you the right to say what is natural and what is unnatural? 'Disgusting abonimations' hey? How about you take a little look in the mirror you idiot.
Outcast Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 "Disgusting abominations" : http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=198822&postcount=14
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