emmaUK Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 hello, ive been with my BF for 8 months its been a bit up n down the last couple months. he has been really stressed with his work n living with his mum n i havent helped much through moanin at him n pesterin his for more attention n jus being a general nag. anyway on friday he text me and said he wudnt be coming round for the weekend (he has been round every weekend since we got 2getha) and he didnt know why he didnt want to but he jus didnt feel like it and not 2 ring him coz he didnt wanna hear me going on at him. then his phone was turned off the whole of friday and even though it was on on saturday ... he didnt reply to the texs i sent n i tried 2 ring a couple times n he didnt pick up.... by sunday i gave up n left him to it. sunday evening though at around 10pm i wsa on msn and he logged in, we chatted civily for a while n i didnt mention what he had done or why he had done what he had done.... then he said he didnt wanna be in a relationship anymore as they just make him feel sad. over the weekend i had suddenly realised that i had nagged him quite a bit n gone on at him over the last few months and my friends have all told me to ease up on him a bit. so i tried to plead with him not to finish with me as i have seen the error of my ways n i know i have moaned alot but i promise to be the happy person he first met again. he declined the offer. anyway the point of my story is this............ even though he has said he dont want me as a GF right now, he is still chattin 2 me on msn, texin or ringing me every day. he's coming over tomorrow evening to have some beers n stay over. and he's saying that at this stage he just wants to be friends and take each day as it comes and if feelins for me develop again then we'll maybe things will get more serious again he sais he still fancies me and finds me hot but because of the way things have been in the lsat few months. ... he 's fallen out of love with me. he sais he just dont want either of us to be unhappy any more and wants to do what he thinks is best 4 both of us also every day i have been tellin him how much i lov n miss him n stuff.... do u think i shudnt b doing this? i find it very hard 2 control myself coz my heart is broken. how shud i be acting and whats the best way 2 go about winning him back? also what do u think is going on in his head right now? do u think he still wants me to be having contact with me every day and coming round 2moro?
Mary3 Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 I suggest a few things here : # 1 : Please be careful that he isn't stringing you along right now until he finds something better Because when he does you are REALLY going to hurt. # 2: There is a possibility if you have very good behavior you might be able to let him see the good side of you again Love is like a bank. You got some withdrawls taken out of the account by nagging him. You need to make deposits back into the account with good behaviors and listening to him. Show him the girl he fell in Love with !
elijahBailey Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 is he still gettin' booty from ya? guys can separate sex and emotions. be careful that you don't get used.
Author emmaUK Posted March 16, 2006 Author Posted March 16, 2006 No we havent done anything sexual since splittin up
littlekitty Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 It's hard to say if he's wanting to try continue a sexual relationship with you (i.e. Beers & staying over!), or if he does actually want to continue a relationship with you. To avoid being hurt I'd refrain from sex with him until your sure he actually wants a relationship with you again. As EJ said, men are able to seperate sex and love, and I wouldn't want to see you get used and hurt. Fingers crossed!
Author emmaUK Posted March 16, 2006 Author Posted March 16, 2006 well i'll make sure my clothes stay on (DAMN) lol i been speakin 2 him for a bit 2day on msn and he has been saying things like... the thought of me forgettin him and moving on 2 next man makes him feel sad, and that ive made him feel really happy last few days (i have been nag free u see). and before he wen ton his lunch break he said - i'll miss you so not sure if he is startin 2 get feelins back or he's jus confused or he's jus saying that 2 get in my underwear. lol
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