fallenheart45 Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 So her is a little update on my ex breaking NC with ME! 6 days ago I get an IM.... Her:"Your doing a good job ingoreing me. I just wanted to say I hope your doing good and I hope lifting is treating you great!" Her:"But if you don't want to talk to me or that I am bothering you I will stop..." Her: But I hope your doing great and lifting is good" Her:"But just let me know if I am bothering you" ME: "sorry, I didn't know i was ignoring you, lol! But your not ignorning me. Talk whenever you want" ME:: SIGNED OFF ....................I just was killing her with kindess I guess last friday...I get a texted message at 8.A.M "I just busted out the Blink 182 CD, because warm weather is around the corner! It reminds me of summer" f***ER HER!!! I just ignored it and thought to my self when I read it and said to myslef..."good for you" LMFAO! Then last night..she IM's ME a f***ing gain! Her: hey, I hope's it ok to talk to you! I thought you were going somewhere for SB? ME: no, not no where Her: what ME: I'm not going no where for spring break Her: What about vegas Me: Fell Threw Her: Oh that stinks Her: So how have you been lately Me: SIGNED OFF ....just stupid! saying how I"m ignoring her..when I'm tring to heal. And I get blamed for it, then texting me for no f***ing reason with some random statement. Then coming back again and doing more s***..... I"m just going to keep signing off IF she im's me again. Maybe she will get the hint...NC=SILENCE!!!
loveling Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 I do not know why you two broke up or what the situation is, have you asked her to leave you alone?
kitten chick Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 I feel like I keep reading the same post from you over and over. You're not going to heal if you keep going like this FH. I know you think you're being nicer by just ignoring her instead of telling her to buzz off but you're not. From her perspective you're coming off as kind of a jerk. You need to tell her point blank that maybe you can be friends with her in the future but you need a break from her right now and to let you contact her when you're ready. She is not having a problem talking to you because she's moved on already. I'm sorry you're still feeling down about this FH.
Art_Critic Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 have you ever heard of blocking her ?????? Quit the "I'm sending you an invisable message " stuff by signing off.. Just block her...That will send the appropiate message
a4a Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 If you really want her to stop..... text her back this: *got good news for you -I have been seeing a new girl. *We have been together- 8 weeks before we broke up. Things are great! I bet she will leave you alone!
UT_longhorn Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 block her on IM. Why even give her the chance to message you? Maybe you feel like you're gaining the upper hand by letting her initiate contact and you cutting things short, but I guarantee that its not affecting her nearly as much as it is affecting you. After these messages you come out confused and wonder what these messages are about. Things like these will hold you back. It may make you feel good for a little because it feels like she cares enough to message and seems like she may be coming around...then after a little bit, you'll start feeling bad again. Really do yourself a favor and block her and cut off all contact. Ask her not to contact you either if she does. Yes..it is difficult. Very difficult. But you must for your own healing.
kitten chick Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 If you really want her to stop..... text her back this: *got good news for you -I have been seeing a new girl. *We have been together- 8 weeks before we broke up. Things are great! I bet she will leave you alone! Oh that could backfire so badly. She could ask him questions about her. Or worse, she may think he's moved on and want a friendship with him.
SmoochieFace Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 So her is a little update on my ex breaking NC with ME! 6 days ago I get an IM.... Her:"Your doing a good job ingoreing me. I just wanted to say I hope your doing good and I hope lifting is treating you great!" Her:"But if you don't want to talk to me or that I am bothering you I will stop..." Her: But I hope your doing great and lifting is good" Her:"But just let me know if I am bothering you" ME: "sorry, I didn't know i was ignoring you, lol! But your not ignorning me. Talk whenever you want" ME:: SIGNED OFF ....................I just was killing her with kindess I guess last friday...I get a texted message at 8.A.M "I just busted out the Blink 182 CD, because warm weather is around the corner! It reminds me of summer" f***ER HER!!! I just ignored it and thought to my self when I read it and said to myslef..."good for you" LMFAO! Then last night..she IM's ME a f***ing gain! Her: hey, I hope's it ok to talk to you! I thought you were going somewhere for SB? ME: no, not no where Her: what ME: I'm not going no where for spring break Her: What about vegas Me: Fell Threw Her: Oh that stinks Her: So how have you been lately Me: SIGNED OFF ....just stupid! saying how I"m ignoring her..when I'm tring to heal. And I get blamed for it, then texting me for no f***ing reason with some random statement. Then coming back again and doing more s***..... I"m just going to keep signing off IF she im's me again. Maybe she will get the hint...NC=SILENCE!!! You're allowing her to do this to you. You need to completely BLOCK her and get on with your life. Cut off her means of being able to communicate with you NOW. The sooner you do so the sooner you will be able to move on and never look back.
SmoochieFace Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 Oh that could backfire so badly. She could ask him questions about her. Or worse, she may think he's moved on and want a friendship with him. Yes it could but that could easily be prevented by cutting her off completely.
Sunfisher Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 Stop acknowledging her if you want nothing to do with her. Silence is the loudest response. It seems you still need to respond - do you still want to be with her? If so, stop playing games and just talk to her like an adult.
JosiePosie Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 I agree with one poster....I have been reading the same thread over and over. Block her already..sheesh.
Dinnj1 Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 agreed... same post... talks about her im'ing him.. he responds... asks for advice then disappears for a few days. You're as predictable as she is.... PS. She's winning!!!! Cause you keep responding.
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