cheval Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 I'm not sure if this is the right place to put this but here goes.... My boyfriend gradually became more and more violent over a period of three months while we lived together. I think it is because of a cocaine habit coupled with huge insecurities. I rent a furnished house and he started breaking everything!! I don't have a lot of money, and I got mad. I told him he needed to straighten himself out. He went to his parents for a while and then came back, lovingly. All of two days go by and he's attacking me again, telling me not to wear certain things, that I'm too friendly, that it must be nice to have an office job (huh??) etc, Anyway, I mean anything and everything was fair game to be nasty. He left me a letter stating how he was sorry and needed to figure things out. OK. Well a week goes by and I talk to him and ask him what he's up to. He says he going out with a guy firend. SO I call up one of my girlfriends and go out with her. He shows up at about three, nose running, eyes wide and pissed off. He asks me why I didn't want to see him that night, and escused me that I wasn't really with my girlfriend. He screamed and yelled how I was a slut. I don't know what happened to the person I fell in love with. I thought I was going to marry this man, I loved him so much!!! Well now I'm alone and I find out I'm pregnant. I tell him. He's happy one minute and raging mad the next. I can't deal with the mood swings. I'm getting scared of him. He was so mean to me last night, he told me I didn't deserve to be a mother. This from the same man who asked me to spend forever with him. I don't want to believe that anyone can be that much of a player!!!!! Meanwhile I told my parents and they won't support me. They told me this would be the biggest mistake of my life if I were to have the child. My boyfriend tells me that he wants nothing to do with me now, I "don't understand him" (well he's got that right!!). I really really don't want to give up the baby. I work but I haven't been there long, I don't know how I would support myself. I've been crying every night, I have never felt so alone. I need advice, what am I supposed to do? .
climbergirl Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 Oh God...........I'm so sorry you are going through this-- I've been there in almost the exact same position. I took that opportunity to resume college and work while pregnant. That definately took my mind off of my a**h*** boyfriend and turned out to be one of the happiest times of my life. My daughter (eventually adopted by my ex-husband at her 2nd birthday) is now 18, and I can't imagine my life w/o her. But don't feel bad about having to make 'another' decision. Only you know what is best for you at this time, but when you do make your decision--make it assuming that he won't be involved. Only then can you make it clear on what needs to happen. Big hugs to you!
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