Raven1845 Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 I miss him. I miss him so much. So much it hurts. It's been 21 days of NC. It's getting harder every day. Tell me not to break NC . . . PLEASE!!!
tanbark813 Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 IME, the 3rd and 4th weeks of NC are by far the hardest. If you can make it past a month things should start to get better.
Apathetic Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 DONT break NC..I did today & am talking to my ex as I type this & so far I want to rip my hair out
Cappe Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 Ok,kitten go talk to him and then come back and tell us that your still heartbroken and talking to him did no good.I've got a bet with my brother that your going to crack and do just that. At least I'll get something out of it.Thanks in advance. C'mon now,why bother with him? 21 days is good,real good but if you crack now all that goes down the drain.Then you'll feel really bad that you cracked and now your heartbroken AND have a good kick to your confidence for all to see.Then you'll start NC again and decide "maybe I ought to talk to him again"...See where I am going? But still if you talk to him,I win a bet.I'll give you 20% of the earnings.Good money.
kitten chick Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 Actually, I'm pretty sure that I won't be talking to Raven's ex.
skeptik224 Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 Don't do it. You said in Rio's post about where we are in our breakup, you mentioned how proud you were of yourself for having the 21 days. Keep it up. All of us at LS are proud of you. Keep being strong.
Author Raven1845 Posted March 15, 2006 Author Posted March 15, 2006 IME, the 3rd and 4th weeks of NC are by far the hardest. If you can make it past a month things should start to get better. Thanks, tanbark. I sure hope it gets better. I'm a mess. Thanks, everyone. Cappe, I just can't let you win that bet, can I? I'm hanging in there. I just hope it gets better. Kinda sucks that I'm in excruciating pain over someone who is probably getting some chick's phone number right now.
Author Raven1845 Posted March 15, 2006 Author Posted March 15, 2006 Don't do it. You said in Rio's post about where we are in our breakup, you mentioned how proud you were of yourself for having the 21 days. Keep it up. All of us at LS are proud of you. Keep being strong. Thank you, skeptik. I know you're right. It's just so difficult. I am proud of myself and I'm glad others are proud of me. That helps in sticking to NC. I just wish it got easier with time, not harder.
Sassy Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 Don't give him the time of day you are way to good for someone like that!! Do not contact this person it would be a disaster and you will regret it.
hurtbeyondwords Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 raven I am in the exact same boat right now. I am a mess and don't know what to do. I will make a pact with you. I have been in NC for 6 weeks. You stay strong and I will do the same. We can both get through this.
Author Raven1845 Posted March 15, 2006 Author Posted March 15, 2006 Thank you, Sassy, you're a sweetie. Every time I've contacted him, I've regretted it. I'm a little embarrassed and ashamed of myself that I would even want to contact someone that allowed a girl to pick up his phone the last time I broke NC. (though, he broke it first by coming to show me his broken nose at a club . . . I didn't respond the way he wanted, and I paid for it with my last phone call). Hurtbeyond words, 6 weeks? That's wonderful. On the same note, I'm sorry you're still feeling like this after 6 weeks. I hope my pain subsides before then, and I hope yours gets better, too. Okay, I'll make that pact with you. Hugs to everyone for your support. Raven
Cappe Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 I said kitten,kinda like sweetie pie. Still we can pass it off as a slip up.
justhavetoletgo Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 if u have one ounce of self respect do not break do not break I did and have regreted it since
Sassy Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 Thank you, Sassy, you're a sweetie. Every time I've contacted him, I've regretted it. I'm a little embarrassed and ashamed of myself that I would even want to contact someone that allowed a girl to pick up his phone the last time I broke NC. (though, he broke it first by coming to show me his broken nose at a club . . . I didn't respond the way he wanted, and I paid for it with my last phone call). Hurtbeyond words, 6 weeks? That's wonderful. On the same note, I'm sorry you're still feeling like this after 6 weeks. I hope my pain subsides before then, and I hope yours gets better, too. Okay, I'll make that pact with you. Hugs to everyone for your support. Raven Your welcome anytime !! Hugs to you as well Raven and remember how he hurt you and it will make no contact much easier. PM me anytime you need a friend when you are wanting to contact him..
kitten chick Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 Well I wish people would stop using my name as a term of endearment Raven, it gets easier the longer you stick with it. It takes 8 weeks to break that habit.
Author Raven1845 Posted March 15, 2006 Author Posted March 15, 2006 Your welcome anytime !! Hugs to you as well Raven and remember how he hurt you and it will make no contact much easier. PM me anytime you need a friend when you are wanting to contact him.. You're awesome.
Author Raven1845 Posted March 15, 2006 Author Posted March 15, 2006 Well I wish people would stop using my name as a term of endearment Raven, it gets easier the longer you stick with it. It takes 8 weeks to break that habit. Hey bird . . . 8 weeks, huh? Yikes! I'll try. Who can resist the advice of an avitar as cute as that? Thank you.
Author Raven1845 Posted March 15, 2006 Author Posted March 15, 2006 DONT break NC..I did today & am talking to my ex as I type this & so far I want to rip my hair out Thanks Apathetic. I hope the conversation got better.
In Sync Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 Please PLEASE DON'T BREAK NC. These first few weeks are going to be the roughest test you'll feel yourself going through. But since you already know and have paid the price of breaking NC before it...You must realize that it's pointless. This is about your self esteem! It's never about the guy..at some point it's about taking stock of who you are and what you think you are entitled to in your life. AND it's about the choices you make that will either help you or hurt you. Will breaking NC benefit you or just satisfy a craving that won't get met?
fooled Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 In Sync offers excellent advice, Raven. And is it wrong that I find the name of this thread slightly arousing?
Author Raven1845 Posted March 16, 2006 Author Posted March 16, 2006 In Sync offers excellent advice, Raven. And is it wrong that I find the name of this thread slightly arousing? :lmao:Why Fooled, you naughty, naughty boy, you! LOL!!!
Author Raven1845 Posted March 16, 2006 Author Posted March 16, 2006 Please PLEASE DON'T BREAK NC. These first few weeks are going to be the roughest test you'll feel yourself going through. But since you already know and have paid the price of breaking NC before it...You must realize that it's pointless. This is about your self esteem! It's never about the guy..at some point it's about taking stock of who you are and what you think you are entitled to in your life. AND it's about the choices you make that will either help you or hurt you. Will breaking NC benefit you or just satisfy a craving that won't get met? Thank you, In Sync. Every time I do break NC, the price gets higher and higher. You're absolutely right. Breaking NC will only set me back. Thank you for your support and encouragement. And thanks to everyone for your help and encouragement. I didn't break NC today. It was hard as H*ll, though. I can't believe I meant so little to someone that meant so much.
Sassy Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 You're awesome. Thanks just know that if you need to contact him pm me instead .. Glad i could help you !
In Sync Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 ...I can't believe I meant so little to someone that meant so much. Well... can you start to believe that you mean alot to all of us here on this thread so this is why we don't want you to get hurt by breaking NC?
Recommended Posts