monaliza Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 I've been snooping on my bf n I found he's been talking with his ex asking her to take him back n that he still loves her.That was a month into our dating we have been dating for 7 monthes.and he send his other ex flowers for v-day.he tells me he doesnt talk to his exs but he almost talk to them everyday sometimes twice a day.I've caught him in so many lies.I dont know what to do I've been hoping that he'd change but its the same story over and over.I know that my snooping is not right in the first place but I found something that was going on behind my back.I feel guilty about the whole thing .I even told him bout it n we were trying to work things out.But I just couldnt trust him and went back n check his mail he still talks to her she telling him that they will make it and that she loves him n she is so greatful that he is in her life...and he post this on myspace as a testmonial n told me that I was overreacting and she is just his ex but I feel disrespected that he kept contact with her when he know that she still have feelings for him n im not comfortable with him talking to her everyday. I snooped because I was suspecious the first time n I promised I wont do it again but I also found that something was going on behind my back....second time I was wrong because I break my promise n snooped again but again he was still lying to me and talkin to her behind my back. Help please I'm really messed up and hurt and confused.
sexyLMC Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 first of all big cuddles for you.. ive been in a situtation a little like yours,, it hurts theres no way about it.. i think what u need to do is say it plai nand simple you know just ask him about it but everything infront of him and ask.. if he cant answer then you know its because hes in the wrong.. you need to think about if you can trust him after this hunny cause nothin will work without trust. lisa x
magda Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 You just need to break up with him. He lies to you.
Citizen Erased Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 He's in love with his ex. Why wait around for him to string you along? Dump his a$$ and find someone who knows how to treat a woman. Your heart will break but it will be better off then if you stay with him for longer.
Tenorman Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 Yes your snooping was wrong and for that you get a mild slap on the wrist. The positive side is that you have found out the truth and when you dump this guy you will give yourself a big pat on the shoulder for saving months if not years of your life.
Citizen Erased Posted March 16, 2006 Posted March 16, 2006 Woman's intuition is not an excuse so we can snoop through our partners things. It is genuinly real. We can pick up on the signs that something is not right and the seed of doubt is planted. You were right with your intuition, so dont think yourself in the wrong. HE is going behind your back HE is meant to be committed and he is not. YOU have to leave before this whole thig blows up because it will.
Shell Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 I don't believe you were wrong to snoop - after all, he has given you good reason to. It is true that a womans instinct is always right - at the time you dont want to belive it and give him the benefit of the doubt, but you acted on your instinct, and rightly so - you discovered he was up to something. The hard thing is, what do you do with that knowledge. You could say that im in the same situation now, but i havnt yet discovered why my instinct tells me something is wrong - but again, its a matter of time. I wonder if he is using you until he can get back with his ex. I hope not, but you must be aware that this could be a possibility. You need to ask yourself, do I want to be with a man I cant trust, or leave him and find someone who is going to treat you with the love that you deserve.
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