jonnie5 Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 I have been dating my girlfriend for about 5 months and lately things have been a little rocky. We used to hang out like 4 days a week and now we only hang out like twice. She would always ask me to do something and now I always have to ask her and she never really wants to. It also seems that she is trying to pick fights with me lately. She would call me like 4 times a day and now she may only call me once. I know she has been really stressed out lately and she hasn't been in a great mood most of the time. She going out of town tomorrow for a week and I asked her to hang out tonight and she said if she didn't have much to do. I get the feeling that she does not want to be with me and hasn't told me. I don't know whether to tell her that I care about her and ask her what is going on or should I just not call her and see if she calls me? Should I just wait to see if she calls me or should I bring this up before she leaves town?
kitten chick Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 Sounds like she's checked out of this relationship already.
Author jonnie5 Posted March 15, 2006 Author Posted March 15, 2006 Should I confront her about it or should I just back off and see what happens?
kitten chick Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 I can't really tell you what to do but if it were me I would confront her about it but expect the worst in outcomes.
Author jonnie5 Posted March 15, 2006 Author Posted March 15, 2006 Maybe I have been acting to insecure and needy lately since we have not been spending as much time together. DO you think it could change things if I went back to playing hard to get and being a challenge.
MadDog Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 Maybe I have been acting to insecure and needy lately since we have not been spending as much time together. DO you think it could change things if I went back to playing hard to get and being a challenge. No, don't play games. Just understand she's going through a time when she needs a little time and space due to her stress (work related I assume.) Just let her know if she needs anything you're there for her. MD
sassybragg Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 You will be more miserable and confused about how you stand while she is away so you might as well ask now and get to the bottom of it. Tell her you have noticed the changes in how often she communicates and you want to know if its her stress or is she pulling away from you for some reason and not telling you why. Sometimes people do get stressed over things and pull away without noticing they do it. Also if she is less interested or even possibly seeing someone else, you need to know so you can move on with your life. Relationships should be give and take, not give and give or take and take. If its fizzling out, at least get some closure, otherwise you will keep wondering and since she is going away for one week, you might go nuts while she is gone if you don't know where things stand. Good luck! I have been dating my girlfriend for about 5 months and lately things have been a little rocky. We used to hang out like 4 days a week and now we only hang out like twice. She would always ask me to do something and now I always have to ask her and she never really wants to. It also seems that she is trying to pick fights with me lately. She would call me like 4 times a day and now she may only call me once. I know she has been really stressed out lately and she hasn't been in a great mood most of the time. She going out of town tomorrow for a week and I asked her to hang out tonight and she said if she didn't have much to do. I get the feeling that she does not want to be with me and hasn't told me. I don't know whether to tell her that I care about her and ask her what is going on or should I just not call her and see if she calls me? Should I just wait to see if she calls me or should I bring this up before she leaves town?
Author jonnie5 Posted March 15, 2006 Author Posted March 15, 2006 i was thinking of giving it a couple of days and giving her some space to see if she calls me before she leaves. She is leaving Thursday afternoon. If she doesn't call, I can try and give her a call on her cell phone. If it is only stress, maybe she will be in a better mood. If not, I will bring it up them. What do you guys think?
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