TheTallOne Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 For any of you who followed the drama from the last thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t80241/ This is the same girl.. just approaching from a different angle. We've been "semi-dating" (we don't call it dating..) for almost a month now. I call her generally every day.. always every other. She calls me roughly the same amount of time I call her, along with txting back and forth.. etc. So, all good, right? She continues to flirt very heavily with me... touch/lean on/grab etc.. smack...etc. She told me last Saturday that she had a dream about me on Friday night, that we went out on a date.. had a good time, and afterwards we were sitting on the couch, and we weren't watching tv (if you catch my drift). So, all signs are going good... she doesn't talk about her last b/f (I don't think she is dating him anymore...) at all. (I dunno if he is even in the picture) Yet, she continues to hold back in opening up to me. I got her to open up a little about a song that she was listening too.. she would listen to it a lot last year when she was having some trouble in life (she wouldn't say what), and then she kind of changed the subject. I think thats about the most progress I've made in the last few weeks. Her background is; her last b/f would use the trust she put in him, against her. He would turn whatever she entrusted to him, around back at her, it really made her insecure in herself. When we dated back in December.. she would kind of expect me to pay for the dates we went on. The "semi-dates" that we went on now, she even actually offered to pay for my food today! Here is another weird thing; she kind of insisted to drive to the store today. Her reason; "So when I drop you off at your car, I can have your spot as its closer." (she works at the college I attend as a tutor) Ok, sounds good! After we eat (in her car), she says that she'd like for me to walk back with her to her work area. I ask her "What about the spot where my car is?" "Oh, don't worry about it." Underlining meaning I missed here? My main worry is; Falling into the friend zone. Become an emotional tampon. (Even though.. that would require her to open up) Before even talking about our "relationship" as a whole, I told myself I'd wait for atleast a month to bring it up. As I got to know her (from what I can gather), and I invested some time into her. (Doing things, calling/txting etc.) I do like her, I saw a side of her today that I haven't really fully seen before. I understand that for her to open up, we need to build a level of trust over time. First, I haven't disobeyed her trust in any which way. Second, as much as I like to tease her, I have never been insulting to her, and have given compliments (sparing, but stuff effective). I understand signs can be wrong.. but are there any that I should look out for, that either signifies "More than just friends interest" or "Just friends" or is she just being a tease? Disclaimer; I am dense as a dark wood oak tree. In relationships, I suffer. In work/school, I excel. I tend not to miss things when they're logical... and relationships are far from being logical. Thanks in advance.
flavius Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 Can't you just go out some, get to know her, have some fun, and grow from where you are to where you end up? Why the Indiana Jones Temple of Doom routine? Can you just let her be who she is today, with you? Must the dark corners of her mind be a hobby?
Author TheTallOne Posted March 15, 2006 Author Posted March 15, 2006 Can't you just go out some, get to know her, have some fun, and grow from where you are to where you end up? Why the Indiana Jones Temple of Doom routine? Can you just let her be who she is today, with you? Must the dark corners of her mind be a hobby? Kind of hard to get to know her, when she doesn't open up, no?
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