DannyF87 Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 Alright ladies and gents, This dilemma has gotten me to the point where i had to look for a forum to get help. Ok so my friend introduced me to her friend. OK My name is danny, im 18 and im single. Me - male Friend - female Friends friend - female*girl i like* Im going to sum it up before i've gotten to the point where it hurts to think about it. I've hung out with this girl 3 times now. Last night was the third. FIrst night we met, we exchanged names and a couple of sentences... It was not a date, i was hanging out with Her and another friend. So yeah all we did was introduce each other and talk for a bit. I thought she was cute and i let *Friend* know. SO she set it up and we hung out again the following day. THis night, is when it started getting akward. There was Friend and the girl i liked, and this other dude. We were all hanging out in her room, i was sitting on her bed and they were on chairs. So pretty much Friend said out loud, Danny * girl i like* wants to f*** you, she wants to kiss you, and all this stuff. haha i laughed and looked at the girl i liked. Then my friend left teh room with the other dude and then the girl i liked says " i like you and all but i rather not hook up tonight" so i was fine with that because i rarely know anything about her. So she layed down next to me and i had my arm around her. Then everyone that visited went home. I gave her a hug and said ill see you soon. Then last night we hung out once more. Except. I was being such a freaking baby and i couldn't start a conversation. I was quiet the whole night and i've been mad at myself for ruining a possible g/f.. i mean you guys kinda have to know something about me. I have not had a girl for like couple of years now. So then when i dropped everyone off and then it was just me and the girl i like. she tells me that she likes me as a friend. At that point i was like, dammit i did this all to myself. And from you experts is what i need, please help me out on how to shape this up again to where she felt comfertable just laying down and i need help pretty much. thanks alot. hopefully couple of you members respond. hopefully an equally balanced in ratio of men : woman.
Author DannyF87 Posted March 14, 2006 Author Posted March 14, 2006 no takers? lol damn, i was worried about that
MadDog Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 The problem is you never made a move the whole time. Judging by your friend's comment of "Danny wants to f*ck you," I take it she's not a prude by any means. That was probably your opening right there. Instead of doing something, you laughed and put your arm around her when you two were alone. When she realized you weren't going to make a move, she countered with "I don't want to hook up tonight" to save face. By the next time you two hung out and you didn't make a move, it was over. She really got tired of your not doing anything so she's written you off as a guy that has no confidence. It's pretty hard to come back from the dead at this point man. What I'd do is just give up on her and try again with another girl. This time, don't be afraid to make a move! Even if you are afraid, make a move anyway. MD
Author DannyF87 Posted March 14, 2006 Author Posted March 14, 2006 Exactly what i was scared of... f***
Author DannyF87 Posted March 14, 2006 Author Posted March 14, 2006 any ladies have a comment on this?
flavius Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 No big deal, danny. All you have to do is show the other side of yourself (or invent one;) ) Just show her a confident guy who knows who he is and can live through a bad day. I say cut the "friend" out of it and don't even report to her. Just go straight to friends-friend and ask her out. Make a joke out of being "just friends" Go straight at it like you're bulletproof. If you cannot do that, then you are hosed anyway. So go ahead and use this girl for target practice. Being bulletproof is an indispensable dating skill, and the only one that makes you the winner even when you lose.
Author DannyF87 Posted March 14, 2006 Author Posted March 14, 2006 No big deal, danny. All you have to do is show the other side of yourself (or invent one;) ) Just show her a confident guy who knows who he is and can live through a bad day. I say cut the "friend" out of it and don't even report to her. Just go straight to friends-friend and ask her out. Make a joke out of being "just friends" Go straight at it like you're bulletproof. If you cannot do that, then you are hosed anyway. So go ahead and use this girl for target practice. Being bulletproof is an indispensable dating skill, and the only one that makes you the winner even when you lose. what kind of signs should i look for that shes interested?
Author DannyF87 Posted March 14, 2006 Author Posted March 14, 2006 so i guess ill end it at that that? or anyone else want to tell me whats up
flavius Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 These threads work slow, Danny, it isn't like Instant Messaging. Somethimes they go on for months. You'll know if she's interested, D. First, she'll say something like "yes.";) Then she'll face her body toward you and toss her head around. She'll get all skippy and bouncy on her feet. You know, all the non-verbal stuff. Are you worried that you're expected to smack some casual sex on her and you want ot know the cues. And you're not positive you're comfortable with that anyway? Am I right?
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