lizzieTM Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 Well heres the back story: I have been good friends with this guy (X) for around 2 nearly 3 years, before i became friends with him i used to really fancy him but since we became friends its died down, now hes had a girlfriend now for about a year and at first i was hugely jealous but got over it. Recently when we all go out on a Fri or Sat night he has tried to kiss me i mean immediatley i pulled away but its becomin harder, i dont know if i should resist anymore? i know that sounds stupid but somewhere im thinking that if i give in he might not try it anymore? Its like a constant occurance every week. He comes to my house one day everyweek and we just chill and watch DVD's needless to say his girlfriend isnt best pleased with this arrangement but he doesnt seem to be too bothered by this. I mean he does really care for her thats apparent but arrggh! Also today we were talking and shared a moment one of those looking for a little too long if you understand what i mean? I recently started to date a guy but it hasnt worked out and X has been there for me. Although he doesnt seem to like many of the lads that i date and i dont know if its jealousy or protection? Im just confused i guess. Has anyone else found themselves in this situation?
Owl Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 Tell him not to come over to your H anymore. That since he's tried to kiss you and such, you're no longer comfortable with him around. Tell his GF about what he's tried to do too. Either she'll straighten him out and they'll have a better relationship, or she'll dump him and THEN you can consider what kind of relationship you want to have with him. But, allowing him to continue to act this way while he's involved with her? No way.
whichwayisup Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 He isn't a real friend to you, if he's making moves on you like that. And his girlfriend has every right to be upset. Why is he spending alone time hanging out with you? Why hasn't he invited his girlfriend to come along too? It isn't fair what he is doing! He's selfish! Tell him to stop making moves on you. I agree with Owl, if he continues to do that, you'll mention it to his girlfriend.
Author lizzieTM Posted March 14, 2006 Author Posted March 14, 2006 I think im going to have a quiet word in his ear....if thay doesnt work then i might have to turn to his g/f but thts the last thing that i want and probably same goes for him too! Thanks for the advice.
babbah Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 Hi Lizzie! you should tell this guy to back off...... dont give in...you're also a girl and im sure u can understand what his gf will feel about this situation. and be warned...imagine if you become his gf (if you give in to this game of love)..what if in the middle of your relationship he will do this thing to other girl...see how will you feel about it. if he's a real friend and respects you, he wouldnt do this to you. goodluck!
prfrogkisser Posted March 15, 2006 Posted March 15, 2006 Humm.. Men cant live with them cant live without him.... shoot them all lol JUST KIDDING ladies Based on experience i have to say this guy has no clue what he really wants and he is dragging you into an emotional rollercoaster. This game thing is wrong. You deserve so much better. Dont get yourself caught in a love triangle. This guy has no respect for his girlfriend feelings. Would you permit a guy to treat you that way? You need to be straight foward and tell him to back off. That you dont feel this is right and that he has a girlfriend and he shouldnt be trying to get it on with you. I believe he wants to see how far he can go with you. He is not taking you seriously. You need to back off. If he doesnt understand and get upset he wasnt a true friend. Who wants a guy like that anyway.
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