Bunnyknome Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 Hello, Hello, I was wondering if it was okay to ask the person you're dating if they like you? For the past few years, I've been involved in relationships where I've been told many things, like "I'm crazy about you; you're my kindred spirit; yaddi-ya", so I'm at the point where I think certain statements have their own agenda (if ya know what I mean ), and not neccessarily the truth. I started dating someone I met on-line about a month and a half ago...we have alot in common, he's sweet to me, he's mentions me to his mom and friends...so far so good. But, it's at the point now where I initiate phonecalls and plans. And yes, he returns them, he carries through plans even when he's dog-tired. Though, he still checks his on-line profile daily, and claims to be a last minute kind of planner kinda guy. Am I the one analyzing too much? Last night, I asked him if I call too much which is about every two or three days, just to gage his reaction, and fish around a bit, but he just laughed and said "no" But I'm no mind-reader...is it weird to ask if he likes me? My instincts are pretty shot these days. Or should I just leave it to the its too soon to spill all deal or let things proceed naturally? I just don't wanna keep making an effort if he's not interested. Thanks.
magda Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 He might not be honest. I think you should stop calling him and let him call you if he wants to see you. Wouldn't that be better? If he is not interested that will be clear and you won't have to worry about him saying he likes you when he doesn't.
kitten chick Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 I agree with magda. Pull back. I was going to expand but I think magda said it pretty well.
Yamaha Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 Sometimes because you call doesn't mean he's not interested. Some people just are not as aggressive as others and they need someone to push them into action. He might be waiting on your call if this has been your pattern. I think asking if someone likes you is perfectly fine. Talking things out is usually the best solution.
kitten chick Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 I think asking if someone likes you is perfectly fine. Talking things out is usually the best solution. Not if he's lying to her. His actions will speak volumes, his words will be meaningless.
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