zbeye Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 I tried to post this once, but do not see it so here goes again. I need your advice on something. I dated someone for 6 months, fell hard for her. Suddenly, things just fell apart, confusingly and in a bad way. I have not talked to her much in the past 6 months. We do see eachother and run in to eachother in passing. The only person who can make my heart race 200 mph, make me speechless and have me standing there staring at those eyes in absolute amazement is her. I am divorced and have never felt that way before. Any way, after running in to her a few weeks ago, she sensed I was down and sent a very nice, sweet email asking if all is o.k. It was her bday this week and I sent a card (I planned on sending this long before she sent the email) wishing her a Happy Birthday. I know her life has been stressful and I just wanted to make sure she knew that I was thinking of her on her birthday and that I do wish her the best. I received a very nice thank you email from her that ended in "don't be a stranger". Question is, what does she mean by that? I have sat here respecting her wishes to be alone. And, I do not want to in any way disrespect her wishes from before nor do I want to cross the line with her and push her farther away. She is too important to me. So, I am confused and just would like others opinions and advice please.
zarathustra Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 I think you should just leave it be and let her make the move to contact you if she wants to. Continue moving on. I think things will get easier for you if you do that.
tikigods Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 I agree, let her do her thing and contact you. I think it was just a friendly ending, like saying "call me" but not really meaning for you to do so
littlekitty Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 It's something I've said before in passing in a similar situation. It's a bit of a cop out really.. 'don't be a stranger'. In other words, feel free to contact me, but I'm not likely to contact you! However, she might have meant it differently.
riobikini Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 There is no info about why the relationship ended in such a bad way, -but it sounds as if things were left quite 'undone' She may be trying to set it all straight for complete closure, on the bright side. But on the dark side, she may be wanting a second chance to break your heart again. Only you would know more about that. -Rio
zbeye Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 There is no info about why the relationship ended in such a bad way, -but it sounds as if things were left quite 'undone' She may be trying to set it all straight for complete closure, on the bright side. But on the dark side, she may be wanting a second chance to break your heart again. Only you would know more about that. -Rio The relationship ended very difficultly. We both said some things that were not the most appropriate. However, a lot of what was said was in email. Problem with email is it can have more than one meaning to you and a different one to me. I learned a valuable lesson there. So in a way, there was no closure. We literally just stopped. But, I do know that we both had very strong feelings for eachother and in a way, we still do. You can tell when we suddenly see eachother face to face. And to be honest, I wanted to build a relationship with her that lasted forever. Thats how well it was going before the end sudden end.
gfto Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 Suddenly, things just fell apart, confusingly and in a bad way. In other words, she got rid of you. It probably wasn't sudden for her. Any way, after running in to her a few weeks ago, she sensed I was down and sent a very nice, sweet email asking if all is o.k. You should've said, "well not really; you see, I'm dating three different girls and I can't decide which one to keep." It was her bday this week and I sent a card (I planned on sending this long before she sent the email) wishing her a Happy Birthday. I know her life has been stressful and I just wanted to make sure she knew that I was thinking of her on her birthday and that I do wish her the best. Mr. Nice Guy I received a very nice thank you email from her that ended in "don't be a stranger". Question is, what does she mean by that? She needs you to stroke her ego by chasing after her.
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