When to tell the new guy about family tradegy

[RedRose3373]

Hello

 

I lost my brother to suicide 16 years ago when i was 17 years old. It was the most devistating thing that ever happened to me.

 

I am dating a new man right now, its been over 2 weeks & things are going great! I just often wonder, when is the right time to tell him that i lost a brother to suicide?

 

I was going to tell him this passed weekend but he brought up how his sister-in-law's sister has depression & is on medication & how it runs in her family, His sister-in- law's mom also had depression & jumped out of the window of her nursing home cause she didn't want to be there, which stopped my from telling him. My brother had major depression for 4 years & ended up taking his own life also.

 

I am not ashamed of what happened or anything, but i'm not sure how my new man will react to it when he sees what is going on with his brother's wife's family.

 

Any advice??

[Art_Critic]

I think you tell him whenever you feel the time is right..

I don't think there is a right or wrong time to tell him about your brother.

 

You don't need to feel that you have to let him know everything about you .. Just let it evolve.

 

Remember that by not telling him stuff like this you are not doing anything wrong.. This is not the kind of info that is a need to know for a BF..

This is the kind of info that is shared as you two get closer and start to share each others lives.

[JayKay]

You do not need to tell him anytime soon. I'd wait until you two feel comfortable around each other and when you feel safe sharing such an intimate detail about your family.

 

I think there will be a time when it feels "OK" to share this. Go with your gut

[RedRose3373]

Ok thanks guys

I just am a very honest person

& i feel like i am hiding something from him

 

I think i'll wait til i meet his family & he meets mine & sees that we are still a normal family & aren't wacked from it.

 

I'm sure everything will be fine when i do tell him.

thanks guys