Raven1845 Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 I don't believe in games, and I don't think anyone should have to play them, but after my break-up, I've been reading a lot of things about how one should go about winning the person they want. They say to; be the first to end phone calls and dates, act aloof, don't sleep with them right away, don't answer their calls or emails for a day or so, never say "I love you" first, play hard to get, etc., etc., etc. Well, what if you found that information out AFTER the fact? Is there every any way of turning it around with the same person? I've never had to play games before, and I've never had a problem getting or keeping the guys I've wanted. Have times changed? Is it geographical location? If you've not followed the "rules" of winning the one you want, is it at all possible to turn it around?
CaliGuy Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 Yes, but only if they show some initial interest. Though I have had contact with my ex lately, I've been trying to string it out so it doesn't look like I want to talk to her. The last time I replied pretty quickly, but with good reason. We've exchanged maybe 5 emails in 3+ months and I never, ever leave it with a question or try and make it seem like I want a lengthy conversation. No questions, nada. I can't be concerned if it will bring her back because at this point I would need a hail mary (as No Foolin said) but it is good practice. I've learned so much from this relationship. Enough valuable info that will benefit me greatly the rest of my life.
Author Raven1845 Posted March 14, 2006 Author Posted March 14, 2006 Why bother playing games? Is it worth it? I want to be with someone I can be myself around... someone who wants to be with me.... Yes, I feel the exact same way. I wish everyone did. It's so frustrating that in order to get and keep the one you want, you must act like they don't mean anything. I think that's really weird.
UT_longhorn Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 i spoke with my mother...married with my father for 30+ years hte other day. i was saying.."you know mom, i hate the fact that sometimes it seems like my relationship with my ex was a game in so many ways". she laughed and said to me "son, don't you know all relationships are just a big game?"
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