lailai Posted March 12, 2006 Posted March 12, 2006 Hi i am looking for a answer, more or less advice. I had met this man last year and we were both honost with each other about being both married. We both have children and are unhappy with our spouses. We feel very comforable when with each other. We both have simular baggage including previous inferdility and suicide attemps. We kind of cling to each other. We have drug abuse and crazy ideas and we both have given each other the chance to walk out that door and with out a thought never do. He is the ear that listens and i am his as well.Prob. is he and i are married and i would love to be with him. He is like no other man that i have ever met with the considation that he has. Plus he hates watching sports!!!! He is my missing link. The completion. But i am having trouble with the enjoyment of the time that we have witch can be anywhere from 2-3 days a wk. for 3-5 hrs. I always want him around. He told me that he would never leave and truthfully i can't either because of my children. i am not saying that because it is a cop out they need both mom and dad because they are special needs children. Anyway texting does not seem to be enough. How can i control my urges and get back to just having fun.
onlyhuman Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 Your both mentally unstably. You both have attempted suicide. Your drug users. Your both cheats. One of you has special need children.????? Please get your self into a program.Your going to find your life a lot better once you've looked after your self first. Nothing worse then two people with similiar afflictions feeding on each other.
brittbritt Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 Well truthfully your both wrong if you are anything more than friends. If the shoe was on the other foot would you want your husband conspiring to leave you? Yes your children need you and so does your HUSBAND. This man is only a temporary relief for the right now. What you need to do is get yourself some counceling and take care of home first. Yeah you may have common interest be your asking for trouble if yo continue with this. Real women/men don't run from thier problems they face them head on. I suggest you take a good long look in the mirrior. Revaluate what is important. I was once in a similar predicament. I was seeing someone who had a girlfriend that he wasn't happy with. He eventually left her for me and I left my boyfriend for him. We had no strings with people. So it worked out. But my friend told me something so true. "If he cheated to be with you, what makes you think he won't cheat on you!" Sure enough although we completed each other he also cheated on me. So the lifes lesson it that what goes around comes around.
tikigods Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 I agree with both of the previous posters. You need to get yourself some help, and not in the form of a new lover
Author lailai Posted March 13, 2006 Author Posted March 13, 2006 just for the record i do not use any drug s of any kind.
onlyhuman Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 My advice stands. See your physician and get your self to a qualified psychitrist. No one really wants to comment on the context and structure of your writing.In one year from now when your feeling better you will see this in a different light. Good luck.
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