blah1234 Posted March 12, 2006 Posted March 12, 2006 No matter what I do, I can't keep it. We live right down the hall from eachother, we have a million mutual friends that want us to go to mutual places. And on top of all that, I can't stop thinking about her!!!
Apathetic Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 Hang in there..Im in the same boat as you & cannot keep the NC thing
MadDog Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 Ever consider a drunk, rebound hookup? Normally it's not suggested but it can be used as a last resort treatment for your situation. MD
GB111 Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 I've been in your boat, but believe me, after being through it, the worst thing you can do is break NC. If you're really having problems that are interfering with your ability to focus on other things in your life, go see a counselor or if it's really bad, go see a medical doctor. There are things you can do to calm your anxiety. This will pass, but not if you let yourself get caught in a vicious whirlpool of emotion. That just leads to depression. Believe me, she's feeling the same way you are. The worst thing you can do is let her know the effect she's having. You have to get to the point where you can look at the situation rationally and not emotionally. You may find you don't even love her any longer when you reach that point. I know that seems a long way off, but believe me, after being dragged along by a woman for a month I initiated a week of NC and she finally called. Now I've decided I deserve to be treated better and have decided to put the relationship behind me, even if she wants back in. I do understand your desperation, and wish there was a magic pill that would make it all go away. Unfortunately, there isn't, so you just have to try to be strong. I'm sure you're a good person and deserve better than having your chain pulled. You'll only hurt yourself in the long run. Wishing you the best.
Apathetic Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 Im going through a similiar situation.One of the the worst parts of it is is that I keep letting him know how he is effecting me.Everytime he does something wrong or something that upsets me,I let him know he has hurt me.I am trying to act like I dont care but I am finding it impossible
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