Guest Posted March 12, 2006 Posted March 12, 2006 Hi everyone, I just need some advice on my situation here... I started seeing this guy for about 2 weeks now, and things seem to be moving really fast..normally my past relationships move fast too but that's what scares me...from my past experience, I tend to get really obsessive and insecure after being in the relationship for sometime...basically it just means that whenever I fell in love with someone in the relationship I start to get really obsess with the relationship and things would start to go downhill because of more arguments and so forth. This time around I am really afraid to jump into a relationshi pagain, but this guy really wants me to be his gf. At first I was pretty firm that I don't want to do that but I think as we spend so much time together I feel that I am slowly faling for him, and that feeling really scares me. I've never been so afraid to be in a relationship or to fall in love...I don't know what am I suppose to do, should I just stop seeing him? There are things about him and I'm still not sure if we would be good together, anyone has this kind of feeling before? it'd be great. Thanks.
MadDog Posted March 12, 2006 Posted March 12, 2006 You don't have to stop seeing him completely but you can just slow things down by not spending so much time with him all the time. Make sure you sit him down and tell him why you're slowing things down though. Let him know that you're interested in him and you could definately see being in a serious relationship with him down the line but you really want to take things slowly at first. This way it'll seem less scary to you and you'll have time to figure out if he's really the guy you want to be in a relationship with. If he's cool, he'll understand. MD
flavius Posted March 12, 2006 Posted March 12, 2006 Tell him that you tend to go psycho in a relationship. "Makes me nervous about moving ahead, because you'd hate for that to happen." Ask him what he thinks. Take it from there! Truth is good, and according to some (I think Jesus introduced the idea) it can even set you free! Play those cards face up, Honey. you cannot lose what you do not have, right? When the time comes you'll do great!
Guest Posted March 12, 2006 Posted March 12, 2006 Tell him that you tend to go psycho in a relationship. "Makes me nervous about moving ahead, because you'd hate for that to happen." Ask him what he thinks. Take it from there! Truth is good, and according to some (I think Jesus introduced the idea) it can even set you free! Play those cards face up, Honey. you cannot lose what you do not have, right? When the time comes you'll do great! Yeah, i've actually told him how i felt but he is so persistent, I mean, he said he'd try to work it with me and stuff like that...but of course he's gonna say this now because he wants me to be his gf...once they find out down the road it's bigger than what they can handle they may just run....I know I should learn to control myself too but somehow it just really frightens me with the thought of falling into the same cycle again. I'm trying hard everyday now not to react to things he say, and keep myself cool, I wonder if I could even ever "love" again becuz I'm so afraid..
Guest Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 haha, do I sound like very immature? I'm 24 now, and he's 22. Maybe I'm just worrying too much but I don't know what else I can do.
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