Guest Posted March 12, 2006 Posted March 12, 2006 I just received a letter stating that the state I live in is going to pursue health insurance for my children against my ex-husband. I am terrified. I have already signed a domestic violence waver against him. It is supposed to protect us from Child Support Enforcement and such. I really don't want to hear that its his duty. He is a very violent man, and as long as he has no financial obligations he will leave us be. My children have recovered, I am remarried. I do not understand why this is occuring. I also don't like that it says they are doing it on my behalf. He will read that as me trying to rape him blind. We have done fine with no childsupport or insurance. If they pursue this it is going to be devistating to the children. I am at a complete loss as to what to do. As it is I will have to wait til Monday to do anything. ::SIGH::
Curmudgeon Posted March 12, 2006 Posted March 12, 2006 Unless your children are on Medicaid and/or receiving other tax payer funded, government benefits, they shouldn't be going after him for anything that's not clearly specified in a support order. Have you tried to discuss this with them?
Guest Posted March 12, 2006 Posted March 12, 2006 I will have to wait until monday to find anything out. The letter arrived on Saturday. My children are on Medicaid, but have only been for a short time and it will be replaced by private healthcare in four months. It does not seem right given the amount of violence we fled from, that they can jeopardize our safety this way. I will drop the Medicaid like a hot potato.
Guest Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 To guest..... ((I apologize if some of this gets repeated... I accidentally hit "some" button on my keyboard & am unsure if the unfinished message was sent or deleted............)) I must reply as I have been in "similar shoes" & may have some advise... To start... ((now condensed version of my original post as I do not have time to type out original in-depth)) It is in your best interest to not receive any type of public assistance.. If you have had benefit of "any" assistance in the past..... make sure that your ex is not default of current or past obligations...... Pay them off yourself if you have to!!! Some questions....... 1) You state that you signed a "domestic violence waver" against him.. a) When & under what circumstances? 2) Do you have any current or past court orders relating to Custody, Visitation or Child Support? a) if so, what do they state? b) how long ago were they filed? 3) Do you have a "current" RO (restraining order) against him? (To be specific, I do not mean a "T.O." but an order that you have been in court for & the Judge ordered him to not contact you for a period of more than 30days...) a) If the above if current...... When (no need to be specific for security reasons, just approx months or years...) & for how long......... 4)How long have you been separated from your ex? 5)How long have you been Remarried?? I ask the above questions only because it relates to what recourse you might be able to take.. I would like to be able to tell you what to do next if possible... However, it is not possible without more information... I am sensitive to delicate information as I have been through similar situation.. I would also like to assure you that this minor setback can be overcome & dealt with.. I personally have been "FREEE" for 10yrs now.... I have never received a dime in support from him or the state... My son's have grown up knowing what it is like to have a "DAD" & not just some abusive man that causes hurt & emotional pain...... That said, I do know that even after 10yrs. should my Ex be sought out after for any type of support....... his Neanderthal abusive ((PERSON? A**)) would be demanding his Biological rights in a heartbeat!!! If I can assist or provide support to you in anyway, Please let me now.... Best wishes. my boys Mom
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