Guest Posted March 11, 2006 Posted March 11, 2006 Okay this is a very complicated situation so follow me here: I met a girl last year from Brazil. We had a five-month, passioned filled, intense relationship and I was so happy with her. I met her I was single. I was broken up with my g.f. of seven years, in which I was engaged, four months after we broke up I met the Brazilian. The Brazilian had to leave back to her country early January this year and I was very sad because we confessed our love and I really wanted to marry her and so did she. I never felt this intensity before. She was not sure when she would come back. Surprisingly my ex wanted to come, around the time the Brazilian left, back to me and continue our engagement and which I agreed to. Weeks later I told the Brazilian that I decided to go back with my old g.f., the Brazilian was extremely hurt and so was I. I felt I had to do it because I have many issues in my life, and I don't want to put her through my life. I do have doubts in the future of my g.f. and I, and when I think of Brazilian and her coming back I get happy and I wonder if we will fall in love again! It is hard to leave my g.f., she has been with me during my depression (I suffer from bouts of depression), and she stuck by me when no one else had, I do not know if the Brazilian would be my me. She is spontaneous, full of life, young (24 I am 28 my g.f. is 32), sexy, intense, don't get me wrong my current g.f. is wonderful however I do not know maybe the Brazilian will get bored of me one day and find some stud! I know I with my g.f. right now but I am nervous of what would happen if the Brazilian comes back. Do you guys think it is wrong of me to chose my current g.f. over the Brazilian? I know the Brazilian still loves me, and it hurts me knowing that I caused her pain. Any advice is appreciated!
whats wrong with me Posted March 11, 2006 Posted March 11, 2006 Do you guys think it is wrong of me to chose my current g.f. over the Brazilian? why did you break up w/ your gf in the first place?
Guest Posted March 12, 2006 Posted March 12, 2006 Do you guys think it is wrong of me to chose my current g.f. over the Brazilian? why did you break up w/ your gf in the first place? Oh current g.f. broke up with me because she said the passion was gone and she ended up dating her ex, some months later she came back to me and wanted to go back with me. The Brazilian and I had a LDR but we decided to wait until she comes back...I know its complicated. Thing is she is for sure coming back in August and I really want to be with her.
whats wrong with me Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 I personally dont think you should dump the brazilian. your gf said the passion was gone then went with someone else. What will happen the next time "the passion is gone" ? Although you feel love for the gf, the feeling might be from your gf beaking up with you ( no closure). your gf sounds shaky and you could be throwing you perfect match (brazilian) away for nothing.
Walk Posted March 14, 2006 Posted March 14, 2006 I think if you don't go for the Brazilian you'll end up playing the "what if" game. And unless you came up with a good solution to stop the passion from leaving your current relationship, then it's going to happen again. And your current gf will leave to find something more passionate again. And then you'll still wonder "what if" about the Brazilian girl, only at that point you'll be kicking yourself hard for not taking the chance with her when you had it.
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