ConfusedSensitiveGuy Posted March 11, 2006 Posted March 11, 2006 I've a new girlfriend. We have been dating for about a month and a bit. All and all it's going fairly well. Until tonight. This week I told my girlfriend that i had plans tonight,(which i still do) In about two hours i am heading to my friends bachelor party. but i am worrying about a particular situation so i had to hop on here and see if i can get some advice. So she told me she would make other plans and it was no big deal. She informs me she is going to a movie tonight, No big deal. Right?Well it's with another guy. I understand it's common for a girl to be friends with guys but to me this doesn't sit well. I told her yesterday that i believe when you're in a relationship you should conduct yourself in a different matter then you would if you were single. And that i would not go to a movie or out for dinner with a female friend 1 on 1 if i was in a relationship. She agreed but says "I don't do this alot". End of conversation. So i'm kind of in a bind. Should i bring it up again how i do not like the idea of her going to a scary movie with another man? or do i let it slide? What are your opinions? Personally i think a movie/dinner is a date scenario. I feel like i'm being cheated on. I dislike this.
MadDog Posted March 11, 2006 Posted March 11, 2006 Who's the guy? If it's one of her longtime friends, no big deal. If it's some random guy, he probably thinks they're going out on a date (sucks for him.) Either way, I wouldn't worry about it too much unless this is her way of pulling away from you. She might also be unhappy that you're going to a bachelor party but instead of telling you that, she's being immature and going out with a guy to get a rise out of you. Maybe she's hoping you'll dislike the idea enough that you'll hang out with her instead of going to the party. As long as she's faithful to you and doesn't cross any lines with the guy, what's the big deal? MD
Author ConfusedSensitiveGuy Posted March 11, 2006 Author Posted March 11, 2006 It's her manager who happens to be a single 33 year old guy. Now what would a 33 year old mans intentions be with a 19 year old girl. I just think there are certain things couples do together that should be restricted. Well anyways, I called her and told her i had a problem with her going to the movies with a guy who isn't me. She hung up. Then called me back crying , saying she will stay home tonight and wait up for me. I feel so bad I told her to go and i'll talk to her tomorrow and i'm sorry and she said "it's not worth losing you,Have a good night, i miss you" and hung up. Jeez break my heart
MadDog Posted March 11, 2006 Posted March 11, 2006 It's her manager who happens to be a single 33 year old guy. Now what would a 33 year old mans intentions be with a 19 year old girl. I just think there are certain things couples do together that should be restricted. Well anyways, I called her and told her i had a problem with her going to the movies with a guy who isn't me. She hung up. Then called me back crying , saying she will stay home tonight and wait up for me. I feel so bad I told her to go and i'll talk to her tomorrow and i'm sorry and she said "it's not worth losing you,Have a good night, i miss you" and hung up. If it's just her manager and not one of her established friends, that's shady as hell. 10 to 1 odds say he's trying to get into her pants. She sounds like a sweet girl but maybe immature. I still think she has a problem with you going to the bachelor party. In either case, have a nice long talk with her tomorrow and ask her what she found so upsetting and really listen to what she's saying. If she's like lots of girls I know, she won't be very direct about what the real root of the problem is. MD
Walk Posted March 11, 2006 Posted March 11, 2006 She probably really thinks its nothing more then a movie with a friend, and doesn't mean any harm in it. But the 33 year old guy.. You know he's got more in mind then a movie.
Tenorman Posted March 11, 2006 Posted March 11, 2006 Send her a text message during the bachelor party saying you miss her and are thinking of her or whatever suits.
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