kitten chick Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 When I turned around, he had his hand down his pants massaging his weenis. It was an awkward moment for everyone involved. Why on earth would he do that while you are right there?
noclobber Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 Why on earth would he do that while you are right there? 'cos Blind_Otter is so sexy and no man can resist her
Yamaha Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 He had his hand down his pants massaging his weenis. It was an awkward moment for everyone involved. Shows you never know about people. He sounds more like a flasher than a friend. Friendship can be very deceiving but I never have heard of someone going to that extreme. Shows very little respect for you as well as for himself.
noclobber Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 I have 2 questions to the women: 1) If a guy friend of yours develops feelings for you why do you immediately feel that you have been betrayed and the whole friendship was just bogus? I can understand if the guy was attracted right from the beginning and tried to get close to you in the name of friendship. But sometimes feelings can develop over time in a friendship. In that case why do you women make it look like as though the guy that professed his feelings for you has committed a sin? 2) If you don't have the same feelings for your guy friend and if he wants to back away in order to avoid further pain why do you hound him in the name of friendship? I understand that friendships are valuable to both men and women and nobody wants to lose a friend. But women react very intensely when they see their guy friend backing away. Why is that? Makes me think that something that you have been secretly getting from your male friend (attention, emotional support, etc) is going to be lost and you don't want to miss it.
sexyLMC Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 men and women can most definatly be friends.. im living proof.. my best friend simon me and him well were like richard and judy.. we get on like a house on fire.. theres no friction, no love in the eyes, no sexually eyes and girls you know the eyes im talking about serously girls an guys can be friends.. x
alphamale Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 When I turned around, he had his hand down his pants massaging his weenis. It was an awkward moment for everyone involved. is this the same clown calling and leaving weird messages at 4am?
yawhatever Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 Its possible I'm sure but not if you had a sexual relationship in the past, or have feelings for the other person and that is usually the guy, while the girl will say "LJBF". Its alot different if you ex wants to be friends but you want something more, what do you do then?
blind_otter Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 is this the same clown calling and leaving weird messages at 4am? Nope, this is another weirdo. The South is full of weirdos. I think that's the major population source.
lindya Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 8. shag once and good-bye. No way. I've known that guy for far too long for that to happen. If I called him and asked any of those questions, he'd probably laugh, tell me to call back when I was sober - then hang up. When I turned around, he had his hand down his pants massaging his weenis. It was an awkward moment for everyone involved. For God's sake. Could he not have gone to the bathroom?
blind_otter Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 Lord knows. I saw him in the parking lot of a nearby grocery store (we live near each other) and he went on and on about his new girlfriend. Which was unnnecessary. But I was trapped outside with a cigarette and didn't want to be rude and just walk a few feet away to smoke. I think we were using each other, in retrospect, as surrogate BF/GF until we were emotionally healthy enough to move on to - er - individuals more suited to our needs. 1
lindya Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 I think we were using each other, in retrospect, as surrogate BF/GF until we were emotionally healthy enough to move on to - er - individuals more suited to our needs. Oh yeah, I had one of those. Only we slept together for about 5 years
alphamale Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 I think we were using each other, in retrospect, as surrogate BF/GF until we were emotionally healthy enough to move on to - er - individuals more suited to our needs. The above is exactly one of the multitudes of reasons why men and women should not be "friends" 1
kitten chick Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 Oh yeah, I had one of those. Only we slept together for about 5 years ........
lindya Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 The above is exactly one of the multitudes of reasons why men and women should not be "friends" I kind of feel that once you're an adult, it's not a great idea to be so close to anyone that you could see them as a non-sexual replacement to a partner. Unless they are actually your partner - in which case you have to take all the risks that are involved in developing an interdependent relationship. That's not a male/female thing, it's more of a "don't rely on any one person too much" thing. Certainly if any male friend were wanting to see me more than once a week on a regular basis, I'd be discouraging it unless I actually had a romantic interest in him. There's too much potential for that surrogate bf/gf thing to develop....and for one person to start feeling lost, abandoned and resentful if the other gets into a real relationship. 1
blind_otter Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 Exactly. I had a gay male friend try to use me as his non-sexual replacement partner. I declined. He had a b!tch fit, we are no longer friends. Sadly, I am not a fag hag. Too butch.
noclobber Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 Certainly if any male friend were wanting to see me more than once a week on a regular basis, I'd be discouraging it unless I actually had a romantic interest in him. There's too much potential for that surrogate bf/gf thing to develop....and for one person to start feeling lost, abandoned and resentful if the other gets into a real relationship. So Lindya, if a guy and a girl both single, meet like 3 or 4 times a week all by themselves regularly, would you feel that its just not friendship but a pseudo-relationship?
noclobber Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 Exactly. I had a gay male friend try to use me as his non-sexual replacement partner. I declined. He had a b!tch fit, we are no longer friends. Sadly, I am not a fag hag. Too butch. How exactly did you know that he was trying to use as a non-sexual partner instead of a friend?
alphamale Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 Exactly. I had a gay male friend try to use me as his non-sexual replacement partner. I declined. He had a b!tch fit, we are no longer friends. Sadly, I am not a fag hag. Too butch. being a good "friends" to someone of the opposite sex takes up a lot of time and energy and not to mention the emotional support, blah blah blah.... that time, energy and support can better be used in other areas of one's life. family, same sex friends, lovers, etc..... 1
lindya Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 So Lindya, if a guy and a girl both single, meet like 3 or 4 times a week all by themselves regularly, would you feel that its just not friendship but a pseudo-relationship? It's certainly got a lot of the characteristics of a relationship. If they're meeting up that regularly, then I'd say there's a strong emotional attachment developing. At some point, the chances are that at least one of them will want to test out whether there's potential for sexual involvement. After all, most people want a partner who they actually like and feel comfortable with, as well as fancy. It's just that with friends, sometimes the main reason you feel comfortable with them is because there's no discernable sexual tension.
noclobber Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 It's certainly got a lot of the characteristics of a relationship. If they're meeting up that regularly, then I'd say there's a strong emotional attachment developing. At some point, the chances are that at least one of them will want to test out whether there's potential for sexual involvement. After all, most people want a partner who they actually like and feel comfortable with, as well as fancy. It's just that with friends, sometimes the main reason you feel comfortable with them is because there's no discernable sexual tension. I didn't quite get that last sentence. It's very interesting. You mean to say 2 singles of the opposite sex can meet up so regularly all by themselves b'cos they are not attracted to each other?
alphamale Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 If they're meeting up that regularly, then I'd say there's a strong emotional attachment developing. At some point, the chances are that at least one of them will want to test out whether there's potential for sexual involvement. Let me give you story LINDYA....a few yrs ago I was at a singles event and this fairly cute woman was standing at the bar talking with some dude she had come in with. What attracted me to her was she was wearing a sexy pair of spike heels and had nice legs (you all know how I love that). So I approached her. She had given me the eye 2 or 3 times already. So I start talking with her and she introduces her male companion as just a friend. As in: "This is Bob, he's just a good friend of mine...". The look on his face was priceless, like he had been reduced to a sack of potatoes. Then after about 10 minutes of convo she hands me her business card....wihtout me even asking for it. I took the card and glanced over to her "friend" and his jaw almost hit the floor. He had a look of jelousy/embarassment on his face. Anyway, I never did call her casue me and the g/f ended up getting back togehter
lindya Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 I didn't quite get that last sentence. It's very interesting. You mean to say 2 singles of the opposite sex can meet up so regularly all by themselves b'cos they are not attracted to each other? It's difficult to describe. Thinking back to an on/off relationship I was in. When it was "on" we were totally comfortable together, because there was no "will we, won't we?" Sex gets rid of the sexual tension. Other times, when we were "off" but would meet up "as friends" it was a nightmare. I'd constantly be thinking "touch me, damn it. Hold my hand. Put your arm round me. This is unnatural!" Next thing you knew, we'd be "on" again. Absolutely no way can you be just friends with someone when there is that amount of tension, and it's stupid to even try. On the other hand, I have guy acquaintances who I think "if I weren't so caught up in the whole need for emotional involvement when I have sex thing, I certainly wouldn't mind sleeping with him." There are times when you can acknowledge that you find someone reasonably shaggable, and they acknowledge the same about you - without the burning need to do anything about it. If you feel like that about someone - and it's pretty common for male female acquaintances to feel that level of attraction to eachother, I'd say - then investing so much time in them that you're meeting up 3 or 4 times a week is likely to lead one or both of them wanting to turn the relationship into a sexual one.
lindya Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 So I start talking with her and she introduces her male companion as just a friend. As in: "This is Bob, he's just a good friend of mine...". The look on his face was priceless, like he had been reduced to a sack of potatoes. That was crap of her. It's a kind of unspoken rule that if you're out with a male friend you don't tell another guy you're interested in know "he's just a friend". It's kind of humiliating to Bob to put him in that position in front of another guy - even though Bob knows the two of you are just friends. Sensible thing is to conduct some detective work so that you can arrange to bump into said OGYII on another occasion when Bob isn't in your company. 1
alphamale Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 That was crap of her. It's a kind of unspoken rule that if you're out with a male friend you don't tell another guy you're interested in know "he's just a friend". well that must be an unspoken rule that many women don't know of....these poor guys are following these women areound like puppy dogs hoping one day she'll love them. it just shows that many of these women have some level of disrepect and disdain for their male "friends".
noclobber Posted March 13, 2006 Posted March 13, 2006 well that must be an unspoken rule that many women don't know of....these poor guys are following these women areound like puppy dogs hoping one day she'll love them. it just shows that many of these women have some level of disrepect and disdain for their male "friends". Reading all the posts here makes me wonder how my female friend is thinking of me. May be she is laughing behind my back.... I guess I am gonna cut off my friendship with her and save my pride. Female friends are not worth it if so many games are being played.
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