Ms_Sweetness Posted March 10, 2006 Posted March 10, 2006 I am so scared. I just met a wonderful guy about a week ago. I know it will take some time to see how everything works out but this is the first time that I've met a guy who meets and even exceeds my requirements. I can't help but to feel that he is too good to be true. He has every quality that I have ever wanted in a guy.I guess only time will tell.
Sand&Water Posted March 10, 2006 Posted March 10, 2006 I know exactly how you feel, Ms_Sweetness. I, too, have met an amazing guy a while back, and from the start he has displayed great qualities. There is yet a lot more to discover about him and I hope I get the chance to delve into his world. But you know what, I'm as nervous as can be. I'm so scared for the outcome that I can't seem to put together coherent thoughts. However, I know for sure that whatever happens, I'm content with the results. For now, I'm trying to enjoy the blissful moments for what they truly are. My heart aches every time he crosses my mind. Just enjoy the time, and yourself. Good Luck
ddnnee Posted March 10, 2006 Posted March 10, 2006 im interested to know what your "requirements" or prerequisites are for a guy. If you think the guy is too much for you, then you are probably right. in this case, dump the guy and find a less qualified guy to date that meets your requirements but do not exceed the "requirements" TOO much. is this true for real world employment too? as if you are OVER qualified for the janitor job, so the employer is afraid to hire you because you may demand higher pay. The employer ends up passing you and hires a high school drop out.
Outcast Posted March 10, 2006 Posted March 10, 2006 People often appear to be ideal and beyond ideal when you first know them. Give it nine months and you'll see not only that he's human, but you doubtless will have found all his flaws and bad points as well.
amaysngrace Posted March 10, 2006 Posted March 10, 2006 tread lightly, Ms. Sweet. when things seem too good to be true, they usually are. keep your eyes open and observe how he treats other women when you're together, say, like a cashier or a waitress. observe carefully because the pros say this is how he will treat you six months down the road...keep us posted, k?
littlekitty Posted March 10, 2006 Posted March 10, 2006 Ahhh bah humbug!!! I say congratulations and good luck. Sometimes, just sometimes mind you... things are exactly what we think they are and it all works out wonderfully....
Author Ms_Sweetness Posted March 10, 2006 Author Posted March 10, 2006 Thanks so much, I really like him so I want to see how it works out. My basic requirements were: 1. Intelligent 2. Educated 3. Realistic Goals that he is actively trying to achieve 4. great listener 5. affectionate These were just qualities that I was looking for off hand. THe others I will only find out about after spending more time.
amaysngrace Posted March 10, 2006 Posted March 10, 2006 Ahhh bah humbug!!! I say congratulations and good luck. Sometimes, just sometimes mind you... things are exactly what we think they are and it all works out wonderfully.... and sometimes you get blind by love and miss things you should've seen. if it works out, that's great. just trying to give her a pointer here. it can work to reassure her too, you know? like if he passes the test....
MadDog Posted March 10, 2006 Posted March 10, 2006 Even if he doesn't end up being as cool as you initially thought, just the idea of meeting someone that personifies all the qualities you look for is pretty awesome. In my experience, a girl normally seems the coolest right at the beginning and it's usually downhill from there (e.g. she seems confident but is actually highly insecure, etc). I'm not saying that'll happen with your guy though--hopefully he'll live up to the hype. Good luck. MD
konfuzd Posted March 11, 2006 Posted March 11, 2006 First off, good luck to you, I sincerely hope things work out for you! I must say that in my experience, the higher the pedestal you build for someone, the further your heart moves from your brain.... have fun, but be cautious.
Author Ms_Sweetness Posted March 17, 2006 Author Posted March 17, 2006 I knew something would go wrong!! It's only been a week since that post and I haven't been out again with him since. It's crazy because I usually don't get caught up with a guy, but for some reason I am really feeling this guy. I am, however about to give up on him, though I don't want to. So he called me earlier this week after I'd called him a few times previously. He explained that his phone was out of service (I know this is true) and that he wanted to get together Tuesday. Tuesday I didn't hear from him, so I called him on Wednesday and he told me that he was at the dearlership getting new tires for his car or something. I haven't heard from him since, I've even called him from another number with a different area code and he still doesn't answer the phone. I can't believe that I am in a situation like this, I have never dwelled on anyone like this. What do you guys think is going on with him? I haven't called him since Wed. and I don't plan to. I feel that if he wants to talk he can call me.
konfuzd Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 Awwww... sorry to hear he's pulling this with you. I really wish I could offer more than simply my sympathy... I've been going through this same thing for the last 6 months with this guy now.... No matter how many of these stunts and games he plays, I keep holding onto the idea that one day things will progress, but the reality is, it stinks!!!! How brutal is it that he cancels your previous arrangements for tires!!!!! Lame!!!! The guy I'm crushing on has used: hungover, golf show, and other various excuses, which always occur after the fact, it's just plain rude... Sometimes I wish I could just smack these guys upside the head and let them know how much they're missing out on when they're avoiding us! Good luck and keep posting, let us know how this turns out!
BlahBlahQueen Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 Maybe you did like I do. Maybe you pedestalled him so high that you gave off a desperate and/or shy/bland vibe and put him off. As you meet more "perfect" guys, you act more natural and charming around them, and they're more likely to respond well. Trust me, guys that fit your criteria are a dime a dozen. Now, guys that fit my 63-point checklist... hmm, not as easy to find. Yet somehow I keep stumbling across them. It's all out there if you know where to look. Then again, he may just not be into you. Or he may be crazy about you and have a legitimate reason to be missing in action. It's only been two days. Give it time. And don't call him.
Author Ms_Sweetness Posted March 17, 2006 Author Posted March 17, 2006 Thank konfuzd, I agree, sometime ya just wanna smack em to make them get it:D . Blah Blah:Maybe you're right, I don't know, I am going to give him a little time. The thing is, this guy is the FIRST guy that I have felt a real connection with since my ex. I usaully ALWAYS find something wrong with each guy, but with him I couldn't find anything major. I know guys say alot of crap just to mess with a girl's mind, but I have always been one to smell bullsh** from a mile away, but he seemed so sincere. Okay, I am just going to wait it out and if he doesn't call, I will just let him go and focus on my again.
monkey00 Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 I am so scared. I just met a wonderful guy about a week ago. I know it will take some time to see how everything works out but this is the first time that I've met a guy who meets and even exceeds my requirements. I can't help but to feel that he is too good to be true. He has every quality that I have ever wanted in a guy.I guess only time will tell. meh..that's how all women are, girls should stop fantasizing. The last time a woman did that to me with the you're 'perfect' crap, it just went downhill....then when we didnt work out, she ended up doing the same to some other guy. you build such high expectations in the beginning only to be disappointed by the guy's failure of not meeting up to it...but hey we're only human and we all have flaws.
TheSwordfish Posted March 17, 2006 Posted March 17, 2006 Thanks so much, I really like him so I want to see how it works out. My basic requirements were: 1. Intelligent 2. Educated 3. Realistic Goals that he is actively trying to achieve 4. great listener 5. affectionate These were just qualities that I was looking for off hand. THe others I will only find out about after spending more time. I didn't know we met last week.......
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