kpin124 Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 ok i am really frustrated right now..... i just needed to vent so here i am..... i just got a text from my mm and it reads ..... emergency no txt at all i will call you monday............ now he has been away on business this week and we haven't talked much we are suspose to be meeting next week but i am not sure what is going on. i had text him earlier today askig him to let me know about next week because i had to know something in order to get the day off and that is how he responds.... i am just about done with all of this its not worth it i am exhausted thinking and worring about him and this is how he treats me i mean give me more then emergency...... what to do what to do anyone ever have this problem?? i want to see him really bad but i just don't know how much longer i can be treated this way..........
Walking away Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 I, just a few days ago, got to the point that I couldn't take the pain any longer. It was difficult to do because I am pragmatic enough to know that I may never hear from or see this man again. (His wife found out about me yesterday just by a fluke) And it is hard loving someone that you can't "have" full time. I guess I just got to the point that the pleasure wasn't worth the pain. But, here's the thing....I traded in one type of pain for another. There's really no way around it. Live with him in pain or live without him in pain.... But, I believe that the more hopeful choice is living without him with pain because the pain WILL subside eventually, and staying with him only prolongs the agony... Peace to you....I am having a very difficult day also...
Author kpin124 Posted March 9, 2006 Author Posted March 9, 2006 Thanks for your thoughts...... I hope everything works out for you Time will heal the pain at least thats what they say.... I am just thinking right now what is going on did his w find out something or is one of his kids hurt or is his w hurt or a parent sick or hurt i just dont know and i hate not knowing.... He thought that his w had found out something a month ago and told me no text untill he had texted me ...... well she didn't find out anything but he totaly freaked out so now i am wondering if maybe she found something out....... i don't know and the fact that he said he would call me is weird we normally text because she can't trace those the calls she can trace from the bill.... so i am just really confused and frustrated
Walking away Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 I know. It sucks not knowing what is going on. My MM's wife found a text message from me yesterday AFTER I told him I couldn't handle the relationship any longer. Anyway, I haven't heard from him since this morning...Hang in there....and so will I.
Author kpin124 Posted March 9, 2006 Author Posted March 9, 2006 I know. It sucks not knowing what is going on. My MM's wife found a text message from me yesterday AFTER I told him I couldn't handle the relationship any longer. Anyway, I haven't heard from him since this morning...Hang in there....and so will I. Ok thanks so much....... it means alot to have someone show you some support on here... i know sometimes people can be mean and that isn't what i need right now... i know i got myself into this situation but that still doesn't make me feel any better. my mm has his phone set so that when he reads a txt it is then erased they don't get saved on his phone...so i am really hoping that she didn't read one....
Walking away Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 And the worst part is not knowing.....that seems to be the theme with these MM. You never know about ANYTHING. You don't know when they are going to call, see you, talk to you....Nada. I couldn't take it any longer. But know this, I feel your pain...and it hurts bad. Hang tough. I will support you.
MazzyStar Posted March 10, 2006 Posted March 10, 2006 i don't know and the fact that he said he would call me is weird we normally text because she can't trace those the calls she can trace from the bill.... IMO, the Wife has found something out, I know I have been through this. Just wanted to add this about the text messaging. It may not say on the bill who the test messages go to, but they say how many were transmitted in that month. Since my Husband never text me, I knew those 400+ text messages a month were not to me. I wish you luck. I also wish that MM would stop hurting not only the wives but the OW too. No need for it. I know I visit this forum often, but post rarely if it all. I ust want to let all the OW know that it does help to read what you go through, what you feel. I am sure you dont care to hear about what the Wife thinks, but maybe if you visit the infidelty forum you could read and feel the wifes emotions, thoughts and pain, and maybe make it easier for you to split with you MM. Pain is pain. We all feel it, and who are we to judge how we received it. Its there, it has to be delt with. I hope yours becomes less each and every day.
scarletletter Posted March 10, 2006 Posted March 10, 2006 Maybe you shouldn't read too much into it. Men do dumb things without thinking. It probably wasn't such a big deal as he let on. They are also pretty inconsiderate at times. I got an email on tues. from mm telling me not to call his ofc. or his cell phone because they are no longer his. That was it...nothing else. So now I had no way to contact him but email and he wasn't answering it. Turns out the next day he told me that he resigned his position and took another one...as simple as that. Of course all kinds of things were going through my mind like, did he get fired, did something happen? I was really worried about him..seriously. He apologized later for not telling me everything but that he was in a big hurry when he wrote the email. I gave him hell for making me worry that way for no reason.
curly Posted March 11, 2006 Posted March 11, 2006 Don't get me wrong.... I fall for this situation all the time.... but it's a completely manipulative manuever. Fairly common for a MM (but everyone does it). It's to keep you off balance. Cryptic "emergency" messages are BS. If you're taking the time to leave a message... you can say what's occurred. It only takes 20 more seconds. I believe that he's keeping you off balance. When you speak to him, you'll be happy to know he's OK. Then you won't ask too many questions after that. You'll question later... after he's gone. I'm not trying to bash your MM, it doesn't mean he doing this because he's a MM. Probably just a character trait. Just my humble opinion... theory..... Good luck.
Babylove Posted March 11, 2006 Posted March 11, 2006 Curly, I totally agree with you! My MM sends me messages which make me worry, and he tells me not to txt him, because somethings going on with his wife...but it just turns out to be nothing. I got one today in fact! I know he had a fight with his wife last night, and todays message was.. 'things are really s***...don't txt me at all....i'll explain later..' And of course I've been worried sick all day..and wondering what the hell is going on....But i'm sure, just like the time before..it'll turn out to be nothing. Kpin124.....It's really unfair for him to do that to you, and make you worry...and curly is right, if you can take the time to right the msg, you can explain what the emergency is....
Author kpin124 Posted March 13, 2006 Author Posted March 13, 2006 I kind of thought the same thing when i got the text from him...... take 20 more seconds and give a little more info so i am not worried about it! This isn't the first time he has done something like this sometime i will get a text saying no text today she will have the phone don't even reply to this...... it makes me so mad but i don't text him i do as he ask and i wait till the next day to talk to him.... I really hope that his wife hasn't found something out i know that he said that if she ever was to ask why he was texting he was going to say it was for work that he text his team members all the time and that is why he has text messages on the bill... i don't know i am just trying to figure out if i should text him later this afternoon or if i should just wait.. He said he would call monday but my guess is he probably ment he would text me but i don't know....i really don't know why i let him do this to me
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