the_alchemyst Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 Well, as some of you know, I have been with my boyfriend for two years now; we've had some time apart in between, but here we are . . . still. Lately, I've been thinking about our relationship--specifically, one aspect of it. Since we got back together a couple of months ago, we have been spending a lot of time with each other. I'd say about 4-5 days out of the week (evenings only). This is what we usually do: We buy something to eat, go to his house, eat, watch Seinfeld, play videogames, *cough* that, talk about whatever, goof around, and then I go home. To be honest, I don't get bored at all, but that's mainly because I am a fan of routine. I like the stability. The thing is that I'm not sure if he's as comfortable with it as I am, since he is way more of an outdoor person. He seems happy, though. This past Tuesday night we did go out bowling at around 9pm with some of his co-workers. Unfortunately, we left at around 11 because I had a midterm the next day at 7 am, so I needed to rest. It was really fun, though . . . and different. It's true that these past 2 months have been pretty bad, weather-wise, but this month is really clearing up. The thing is that he doesn't have a lot of money, so I know that sometimes we don't do much because he doesn't have money to spend. I have paid quite a few times, and I am perfectly fine with it, but he doesn't really like me to pay for everything on several consecutive ocassions. So, my question is: Is it normal to spend so much time indoors--just us two? Is this okay or should I be striving to go out with him more, to avoid things getting stale?
Raven1845 Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 It sounds like you're both enjoying the time together. In my opinion, it doesn't matter what we do with the person we care for as long as we're together and having fun. My ex didn't have a lot of money either, but on the nights we would just hang out on the couch in front of the television or play video games, I was every bit as happy as if we had gone out for a night of dinner and dancing. It didn't matter what we did. As long as we could be together, I loved it. I probably loved staying in with him more than going out. It was quality time. But then again, ALL time is quality time.
agnf666 Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 It sounds like you're both enjoying the time together. In my opinion, it doesn't matter what we do with the person we care for as long as we're together and having fun. That is totally right... If you are spending time together and you are both enjoying it then there should be no real problem. When the weather gets better then you guys can go out and have some fun. You can do alot of outdoor things with less to no money... If he has a problem with it then I would think he would have said something by now.
Guest Posted March 10, 2006 Posted March 10, 2006 I am living with my husband since June 2005 together. Besides that we have different schedules, even if we try to, we almost do nothing. For example my day looks like this: mo-fr leaving the house at 9 am and return around 7 pm. Most of the time I am tired, and don't even am in the mood of going to the gym, or just do something. So mostly we stay home. But he is a very night active person, he rarely goes to sleep before 3-4 am and so he don't has to wake up early as I do. And if you count the money together you spend outside, by the end of the month it's a considerable amount. It doesn't mean we do nothing, we go clubbing, dining out, to the movies. But just once in a while. Just staying home watching a movie together lying next to each other can be very nice and kozy :-)
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