brftrobin Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 Ok, here it is, I'll try and make it a short version. I met this guy a little over a year ago, we saw each other every other weekend. Talked on the phone for hours, we are both single parents, so it was after the kids went to bed. I live about a 100 miles from him. We would see each other and everything was great (so I thought) about 2 months into it, he tells me he still has feelings for his ex girlfriend, and that he lied to me about were he was one night, she was his house (just talking). Anyway, he told me he wanted us to be friends, he would call me every few days and we would talk for a while. He was dating someone else, (not the ex-girlfriend), then that ended. Not really sure why, it just did. We ran into each other while I was in his area (totally by accident) and he invited me to a movie with him and his daughter, after that we started talking more and more, basically every day again. Then one night we slept together, it was really strange. But we have always been really good together sexually. Well slowly things progressed to where we were seeing each other every other weekend again. Then, it was including all of our kids, camping, boating, birthdays, holidays, everything. He called me his girlfriend, but I just didn't feel like he was really into it. For Christmas, he bought me diamond earrings, some really expense perfume and it was great. Valentines Day, we had a great dinner, he got me a huge bouquet of flowers, a day a day spa, (a whole day). The the week after that I was at his house and things were going ok, then we started talking about my moving to that side of the state, and I have always wanted to move, I am not moving because of him not at all. My kids want to move, I want to move, anyway, he told me if I was going to move, that we should end it, he really just wants me as a friend, that's all. That he wasn't good enough for me, he couldn't give me what I need. I couldn't believe it. So when we told the kids, they were all upset, because we all got along so great. Then he again said he just wants me as a friend. He calls me every day, and every night just like before, except this time. I don't get it, he can't have it both ways, I'm not crying over it anymore, he walked away before and thought the grass was greener, but he was color blind and came back. This time, I won't be there. Why do guys do this??
Outcast Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 They want to have companionship without having it all the time. They want a companion of convenience. For whatever reason, they can't hack being in a relationship - or else use you as a pseudo-gf until they find someone they want to be in a relationship with. You're a stand-in is all. Very annoying, for sure.
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