theblade Posted March 8, 2006 Posted March 8, 2006 Ok, so everyone on here has been going through rough times...So let me tell you about my experience. I posted on here when my ex gf cheated on me after being with her for over 3 years. It really hurt and i thought that nothing would ever make me feel "normal " again. I looked on this site every day to see that, im not the only one going through this, and it kind of makes things seem alright. I dont know how to explain it, but...you kind of say to yourself, "yeh...i know its going to hurt, but, i am really going to be fine soon" Well, i did the NC thing after about a month after splitting up with her...after all the "i want you back" and "i still love you" rubbish and although it so very hard to do, im so glad i dint contact her. Now, dont get me wrong, she will always be part of my life, but ex's are ex's for a reason. Thing was, in January, she was still playing on my mind and there was alot of things that i wanted to say to her that i never did, and im sure most people have been in this situation. So, i sat down and wrote a letter to her, explaining how well im doing and just making her see that, i've never been better (and truth be known, i have never felt better!). Basically, it was a letter that made ME see, that im over her, and writing it was brilliant. Proper real closure. Full stop. I was so scared that if i ever did see her, i would have butterflies and all that. However, i saw her. About 3 weeks ago....and, nothing...there was nothing there. I just said hello, it was just like seeing someone you kinda know, but, not well enough to strike up a converstation. So, to everyone who is going through the pain and sleepless nights and the hurt of what the other person is doing, this is to you... Ive been through it, just like you are....but my god, there is a huuuuuge light at the end of the tunnel and it is SO good. Ex's are ex's for a reason, they lead you to the person who you are meant to be with. Simple as that.
riobikini Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 RE: Ex's are ex's for a reason, they lead you to the person who you are meant to be with. Simple as that. TB, thank you for that. It should be posted on the fridge, by the phone, and on the car visor for many of us. Take Care. (Smile) -Rio
littlekitty Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 Amen... isn't it all just a big learning process.
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