amaysngrace Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Oh I see now. I wouldn't take it very personally. OW lash out on the W alot of times. They hear from the MM how horrible the W is.. blah blah blah. yeah well after they divorced, he was living with the OW and was having sex with the ex (my friend) so in this case, what goes around comes around, huh?
erika2610 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 yeah well after they divorced, he was living with the OW and was having sex with the ex (my friend) so in this case, what goes around comes around, huh? Ugh.. I can see why either of them would be mad..
huz68qog Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I wish you could all understand that MM see you, the OW, nothing but a side dish. I know this sounds harsh, but it is the truth. If he truely loved you, he would divorce his W and be with you, plain and simple. He will tell you nything and everything you want to hear, because he feels he needs this sex. Thats all it is. Sure you can talk future plans, but reality is, he says it because he wants to keep you on his leash, under his control. He controls everything, think about it. Its up to him when you see eachother, talk, it all has to be around his schedule. Noone should have to live like that. If you get involved with a MM or even a MW, you have to expect you are nothing more than sex to him. You cant expect him/her to leave their marriage. You are fooling yourself. Give yourself something more out of life. You deserve better. A MM mans point of view on it all. agree that when your knowing involved with a committed man or women whether married or not, that you are in-fact setting yourself up for failure and disappointment. why would you willing want to share someone with somebody else. he or she usually wines and dines you or shower you with gifts to lighten their situation once you let them in, it's all over with and goes downhill from there. it's a selfish act.
erika2610 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 agree that when your knowing involved with a committed man or women whether married or not, that you are in-fact setting yourself up for failure and disappointment. why would you willing want to share someone with somebody else. he or she usually wines and dines you or shower you with gifts to lighten their situation once you let them in, it's all over with and goes downhill from there. it's a selfish act. I wish it were just so easy as some people seem to think it is. I wish it were just so cut and dry. The fact of the matter is it's not. I never intended to fall for a MM. I'll also bet that 99% of people never intended to. It just happened. Why do people feel the need to judge? Have you never done anything wrong in your life?
amaysngrace Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 when your knowing involved with a committed man or women whether married or not, that you are in-fact setting yourself up for failure and disappointment. yeah but what if someone gets involved with a man who failed to mention that they're married? and waits until the other woman becomes emotionally attached to this man and all his doting before he springs the news on her? then what? then his wife could become the side dish in this second woman's eyes, no?
huz68qog Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I wish it were just so easy as some people seem to think it is. I wish it were just so cut and dry. The fact of the matter is it's not. I never intended to fall for a MM. I'll also bet that 99% of people never intended to. It just happened. Why do people feel the need to judge? Have you never done anything wrong in your life? no disrespect intended but within that 99 percent if those people were in fact aware of the other persons martial status, then it didn't just happen, at least not without thought. of course I've done some wrong things in my life and i learned from every experience. i can admit to my wrong doing and not rationalize any of them. wrong is wrong if you willing got involved with a MM, then what was your intent? do un-to others as you would done un-to you.
erika2610 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 no disrespect intended but within that 99 percent if those people were in fact aware of the other persons martial status, then it didn't just happen, at least not without thought. of course I've done some wrong things in my life and i learned from every experience. i can admit to my wrong doing and not rationalize any of them. wrong is wrong if you willing got involved with a MM, then what was your intent? do un-to others as you would done un-to you. I will admit that I knew my MM was married. I'll also say that alot of girls Do know they're married. With my situation, I never intended to fall for a MM. I worked with mine, and I rejected him for over a year, until I finally just fell for him. I was at a low point in my life, and he knew that.. I was an easy target. I'm not justifying myself.. that's just how it was at the time. I admit to my wrong doing, and I never tried to rationalize.
huz68qog Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 I will admit that I knew my MM was married. I'll also say that alot of girls Do know they're married. With my situation, I never intended to fall for a MM. I worked with mine, and I rejected him for over a year, until I finally just fell for him. I was at a low point in my life, and he knew that.. I was an easy target. I'm not justifying myself.. that's just how it was at the time. I admit to my wrong doing, and I never tried to rationalize. men take advantage of women everyday, some even prey only on the women that they know are at a venerable stage in their life. it's good to know that you self reflected on your situation. so how or why did it end? if you don't mind
amaysngrace Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 With my situation, I never intended to fall for a MM. I worked with mine, and I rejected him for over a year, until I finally just fell for him. I admit to my wrong doing, and I never tried to rationalize. i don't think you should be judged for being weakened at the same time some married guy was coming on strong. things happen for a reason. maybe their marriage will be strengthened for it. maybe it will end. whatever the outcome, it was meant to happen. don't beat yourself up, k? and maybe you will avoid this type of relationship in the future for yourself as well. who knows? it's no one's place to judge.
erika2610 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 men take advantage of women everyday, some even prey only on the women that they know are at a venerable stage in their life. it's good to know that you self reflected on your situation. so how or why did it end? if you don't mind It ended the first time because his W found out and threw him into marriage counseling. He came back to me a couple of months later.. but I couldn't deal with it anymore. I got too wrapped up in it.. I eventually wanted him to leave his W, and he was just so non chalant about everything. He treated me like crap, which I didn't realize so much at the time, but looking back on it, I fully realize it. I lost my job at the restaurant where we both worked. We hadn't been together in a couple of months I believe. I went to visit a girlfriend of mine one day. He happened to saunter in. One of my friends over heard him say to somebody while I was outside 'Erika probably just needs money, she never calls me to come here to see her anymore'. He walked by me and THREW $7 at me. I flipped out and texted him, telling him I was worth more than that.. he called me over and over, and I never answered. Never heard from him again. I think after it's over, alot of women self reflect on the situation.. hindsight is everything.
erika2610 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 i don't think you should be judged for being weakened at the same time some married guy was coming on strong. things happen for a reason. maybe their marriage will be strengthened for it. maybe it will end. whatever the outcome, it was meant to happen. don't beat yourself up, k? and maybe you will avoid this type of relationship in the future for yourself as well. who knows? it's no one's place to judge. I don't beat myself up over it. I made a mistake, I learned my lesson. I learned never to date a MM again And I learned lessons as far as how I will let my next man treat me. I never want to be treated like that again. Now he's moved on to another mistress.. probably treating her just as crappy..
huz68qog Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 It ended the first time because his W found out and threw him into marriage counseling. He came back to me a couple of months later.. but I couldn't deal with it anymore. I got too wrapped up in it.. I eventually wanted him to leave his W, and he was just so non chalant about everything. He treated me like crap, which I didn't realize so much at the time, but looking back on it, I fully realize it. I lost my job at the restaurant where we both worked. We hadn't been together in a couple of months I believe. I went to visit a girlfriend of mine one day. He happened to saunter in. One of my friends over heard him say to somebody while I was outside 'Erika probably just needs money, she never calls me to come here to see her anymore'. He walked by me and THREW $7 at me. I flipped out and texted him, telling him I was worth more than that.. he called me over and over, and I never answered. Never heard from him again. I think after it's over, alot of women self reflect on the situation.. hindsight is everything. what goes around comes around and his day will definely come. i'm glad that you got out of that situation.
erika2610 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 what goes around comes around and his day will definely come. i'm glad that you got out of that situation. Thank you.. believe me, So am I
No Stress Lady Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Ugh. Bullhunter's real. Do a search on his posts.. he posts on other threads too. These kind of posts make some people want to stop posting sometimes.. Hi Erica I always hear the voice of Darth Vader whenever I read his posts!!!!!!
erika2610 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Hi Erica I always hear the voice of Darth Vader whenever I read his posts!!!!!! Hello darlin I know
lovernotafighter Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 Thank you.. believe me, So am I wow erica,your MM sounds like he turned out to be a real jerk...I'm sorry to hear that..but at least your out of the situation..and every relationship ,good or bad is a learning experience.
erika2610 Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 wow erica,your MM sounds like he turned out to be a real jerk...I'm sorry to hear that..but at least your out of the situation..and every relationship ,good or bad is a learning experience. He did. No doubt. But he was my first so called 'Long term relationship'.. and like I said, now I know how I don't want ot be treated. I'm so glad to be out
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