PlentyLV007 Posted March 7, 2006 Posted March 7, 2006 I'm going to vent here because I'm becoming very upset at the fact that the majority of people think that something is wrong with being single and dating(dating several men) as a woman......,I'm very proud to say that I'M SINGLE, I'm 26 years old, great personality and quite attractive if I may say so myself. NOW..... I have a couple of people that tell me they have friends that would be perfect for me and want to hook me up and that I'm too cute to be alone and that I should be w/ someone....What The Hell????? When did being single for a woman become wrong? Or when did it become the theory that if your single and attractive "there must be something wrong w/ you" or since your independant "your just too much or high maintanenced type of girl"? yet when a guy is single/ dating he's looked at a great pimp, playa, playa for dating several women!!! (high five the guy)
catgirl1927 Posted March 7, 2006 Posted March 7, 2006 I so know what you're talking about. I was 25 and single, and my extended family kept asking my aunt if I was a lesbian! They would say things like, why can't she find a man who will marry her? what's wrong with her? It's a ridiculous double standard. Enjoy your time and tell those people to join us in the 21st century. Women don't need to be strangled down any more than men do!
Author PlentyLV007 Posted March 7, 2006 Author Posted March 7, 2006 Man oh man....I seriously don't get it....my mom wants me to have kids already and most men I date....sure they ask why I'm still single and why I'm not settled down...it's like c'mon....so I just ask them...why aren't you? I mean as a woman we know when it's our time...and we don't have to be w/ someone to be happy. =) I'm very proud and happy to say that.... It just annoys me that other women and men are like..."ok...something is wrong wit her" or "well look at her she's high maintanance". OMG...when a guy told me that.... I was like yeah....sure...if you say so...judging me....because I can take care of myself..... that's great.... I'm such a kid that likes nice toys that's all. :lmao:
catgirl1927 Posted March 7, 2006 Posted March 7, 2006 What I hate the most is when people find out you're single and they say, "You're too picky." Yes, if there is ever a time to bargain-hunt, for sure that's when you're choosing the father of your children. You stick to your guns! I'm proud of you, I'm proud of all strong, independent young women. REAL men aren't intimidated by strong women. I'm just sayin'.
Author PlentyLV007 Posted March 7, 2006 Author Posted March 7, 2006 REAL men aren't intimidated by strong women. I'm just sayin'. I'm not trying to make this into a man hating thread because I'm not a man hatter....I just hate on people who judge me for being single and independant! I'm venting and hopefully will get some thoughts by some guys on why they would think that way about some girls because there are a lot of women who go threw what I just vented. At least I think so.... This one guy I like very much tells me that he's turned on by the fact that I take care of myself and don't depend on anybody to do things. =) I actually like that he says that! He's that 32% our of 100% of men out there that are GREAT MEN.....
blind_otter Posted March 7, 2006 Posted March 7, 2006 I'm 26 my mom acts like I'm an old maid. She even told me my eggs were rotting. Honestly I've been married and divorced. Hell I got engaged when I was 20, genius move that was. It ain't all that. Personally I think marriage is an antiquated institution originally designed to facilitate the transfer of proptery between the father and husband. I fail to see how it functions nowadays, with such a high divorce rate. what is the point.
Author PlentyLV007 Posted March 7, 2006 Author Posted March 7, 2006 [quote=blind_otter Honestly I've been married and divorced. Hell I got engaged when I was 20, genius move that was. It ain't all that. Personally I think marriage is an antiquated institution originally designed to facilitate the transfer of proptery between the father and husband. I fail to see how it functions nowadays, with such a high divorce rate. what is the point. I totally agree!!!! people ask me why don't you want to get married? I tell them that most men don't believe in marriage like men use to back in the day. Marriage now is like breaking up and it seems to be "the okay thing" to do like, it's so common now. Marriage doesn't have any meaning to it anymore. I think it's just a show....it's just a paper and love shouldn't be put in writting or have a big show for it. Love isn't all it's cracked up to be....Love is beautiful, painful, hurtful,happy, sad, cheerful, something that grows, love is bent, pulled, torn, cherished, and it's not a movie! Love is not just paraded in one day....on paper or down the isle.
noclobber Posted March 7, 2006 Posted March 7, 2006 As a non-American I find this one thing about your culture very surprising. The American culture values individualism and self-reliance but at the same time I see the American people craving for relationships... It's like they just cannot be alone or single. I even wonder whether some of them have a boyfriend/girlfriend not b'cos they really love the other person but just because they don't want to be seen as single and hence abnormal. That said, I am very happy to see your post where you say "what's wrong in being single?". I think being single and having your own life is great in itself. Relationship is only a want not a need! You get into a relationship if you really like the other person and want to be with him/her not because your friends and other people are in relationships.
blind_otter Posted March 7, 2006 Posted March 7, 2006 Relationships are the new national religion in america. Let us pray.
SmoochieFace Posted March 7, 2006 Posted March 7, 2006 As a non-American I find this one thing about your culture very surprising. The American culture values individualism and self-reliance but at the same time I see the American people craving for relationships... It's like they just cannot be alone or single. I even wonder whether some of them have a boyfriend/girlfriend not b'cos they really love the other person but just because they don't want to be seen as single and hence abnormal. Excellent point. I agree - there is a schizoid mentality when it comes to this. Definitely an oxyMORON... with particular emphasis on the MORON. The *I can't live without a man/woman* or *I'm NOTHING without a partner* bit has got to be one of the most pathetic things I have ever heard... makes me wanna laugh out loud at the MORON who whines those words. From where do those freaks get that garbage anyway? "Play Misty For Me?"
l2hvn Posted March 7, 2006 Posted March 7, 2006 Excellent point. I agree - there is a schizoid mentality when it comes to this. Definitely an oxyMORON... with particular emphasis on the MORON. The *I can't live without a man/woman* or *I'm NOTHING without a partner* bit has got to be one of the most pathetic things I have ever heard... makes me wanna laugh out loud at the MORON who whines those words. From where do those freaks get that garbage anyway? "Play Misty For Me?" This also goes to those who actually stay in miserable relationships just because they are afraid to be alone and/or start all over again.
SmoochieFace Posted March 7, 2006 Posted March 7, 2006 This also goes to those who actually stay in miserable relationships just because they are afraid to be alone and/or start all over again. Absolutely. Where's the strength? Where's the self-respect? Where's the "*beep* you, jackass, I'm not putting up with your *beep*!" way of thinking?
noclobber Posted March 7, 2006 Posted March 7, 2006 This also goes to those who actually stay in miserable relationships just because they are afraid to be alone and/or start all over again. Yeah.. I have noticed some of my American friends almost cringe with embarassment when they said they don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend. But I didn't see even the slightest bit of embarassment when the same people said that they don't have a college degree.
jerbear Posted March 7, 2006 Posted March 7, 2006 This also goes to those who actually stay in miserable relationships just because they are afraid to be alone and/or start all over again. My parents keep on bothering me with when are the grandkids, time to get a girlfriend and get married. Really annoying. The being single thing at "our" age has been antiquated. In the past, say 50 years ago being married in the teens were normal. In the old days before 1980's, a high school degree was required. Now a BS is required if one wants to get anywhere in life. If you want to be a manager, a BS is required. Now if one wants to be a midlevel or higher, one has to have a MS or pedigree. To get a BS or MS a woman would postpone marriage and be a "single, never married" woman. After getting a degree(s), it takes about 2-5 years before a career is offcially started. Now your looking at 24-30 years old. It is similar for a guy.
Forever Searching Posted March 8, 2006 Posted March 8, 2006 I get the same thing. I'm 28, attractive, have a good job. Alot of my High School friends are married with kids but not all of them are necessarily happy because they are married. They settled and that is one thing I will not do, settle just to be married.
agnf666 Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 Im single... At this point I have had it with men for right now... So, I will probably be this way for a while until something good comes.
Author PlentyLV007 Posted March 9, 2006 Author Posted March 9, 2006 You know I was in a 5 year relationship and it's been 2 years now that I've been dating...I didn't want to feel that just because I was in a 5 year relationship that we have to get married. Plus I was 23 at the time. This year I'll be turning 26 and I couldn't be happier!!! Sure it's pretty exhausting going through idiot after idiot...but, I'd rather be single and happy then committed and unhappy!
luvtoto Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 Well, I'm divorced, does that count as being single? I am an attractive, single woman. I have been divorced for 10 yrs. People ask me also why I haven't remarried. I just think it adds a bit of mystery to my personality. Everyone seems to want to know why. What's my story...kind of attitude. Being a single mother, of two, gives me a great sense of pride in myself...I don't need a man and some people just have a hard time understanding that. I must say, I have been a witness to the stigma. With the divorce rate like it is, I am surprised that the *normal* thing to do is to get married.
MadDog Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 Well, I'm divorced, does that count as being single? I am an attractive, single woman. I have been divorced for 10 yrs. People ask me also why I haven't remarried. I just think it adds a bit of mystery to my personality. Everyone seems to want to know why. What's my story...kind of attitude. Being a single mother, of two, gives me a great sense of pride in myself...I don't need a man and some people just have a hard time understanding that. I must say, I have been a witness to the stigma. With the divorce rate like it is, I am surprised that the *normal* thing to do is to get married. Well one of the reasons why it'd make sense to get remarried (assuming you meet the right guy) is so that your kids will have a father figure around. I don't mean to discredit you and I'm sure you're doing a fine job rearing your kids on your own but it's still nice to have a dad, from a child's perspective I think. I think the reason why the divorce rate is so high is because people automatically start tying the knot when they reach their mid to late 20's just because they feel like it's time. The fact of the matter is though that you might meet the person that's right for you when you're 20 or when you're 40. Just cause you feel like it's time you get married doesn't mean the guy/girl you happen to be with at the time is going to be the right person for you for a lifetime. MD
catgirl1927 Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 Oh divorced is MOST definitely single. I didn't get any pressure after my divorce to meet someone new. I was told that at 32 I was too old to ever get married for love again, and that I would be alone forever unless I found some older man who was divorced or whose wife had died and became a trophy wife. Nice, huh? I don't really talk to those people any more...
Author PlentyLV007 Posted March 9, 2006 Author Posted March 9, 2006 Funny how you say that ....about the age thing...I'm turning 26 this year and my mom/friends/even co-workers are telling me my time is ticking for kids and marriage.... (nodding head) I don't think so!!!!
catgirl1927 Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 Funny how you say that ....about the age thing...I'm turning 26 this year and my mom/friends/even co-workers are telling me my time is ticking for kids and marriage.... (nodding head) I don't think so!!!! When I was 25 I wasn't married yet and my family was asking my aunt if I was a lesbian. Seriously. Like if you're THAT old and not married you must not like men. One relative told me that if I didn't have kids by the time I was 27 I would be too old because my eggs would all be dead or gone or something. People can be so ridiculous.
Author PlentyLV007 Posted March 9, 2006 Author Posted March 9, 2006 :lmao: :laugh: Catgirl...ur family is classic...."eggs rotting"....Hilarious!!!
kitten chick Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 I get the same thing. Because I'm 28 people seem to think this is it for me, there must be something wrong with me and I'm too old to get married and have kids. Societal pressure sucks. That's great that you guys don't let it get to you, I'm starting to come to terms with this. Hopefully the next time someone says something to me I'll be able to tell them feck off just like you.
catgirl1927 Posted March 9, 2006 Posted March 9, 2006 :lmao: :laugh: Catgirl...ur family is classic...."eggs rotting"....Hilarious!!! Girl, my family is INSANE. Seriously. You would not BELIEVE!
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